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It is unbelievable how many men there are who are awe-struck when it comes to approaching and talking to women. But what I find really appalling is the fact that so many of them are laboring under some unfounded illusions about women that prevent them from making any move whatsoever. Let’s examine some of these misconceptions.
Many men believe that, to be attractive, they have to conform to what women say and want. That’s one sure way to intimidate yourself. Women usually say they prefer men who are tall, dark, handsome, intelligent, rich, athletically built. The truth is, women don’t really know what they want until they see it. They only think this is what they want probably because this is what they’ve seen in their favorite movies or on TV. Most women will be charmed off their feet by men who are smart, charming, funny and good conversationalists.
Another wrong belief is that, to attract women, you have to like what they like and are interested in the things they enjoy. Some men actually pretend to like things that women like, hoping they can create some interest. Nothing could be further from the truth. Whether or not men share the same interests with women is secondary in the realm of attraction and romance. In fact, many women are attracted to men who are their virtual opposites in terms of personality and interests. This is important to point out because some men actually go out of their way to pretend to like the things that the woman they are attracted to likes, which is pathetic and unnecessary.
Even men who are fairly capable of attracting women still have trouble when it comes to sex, mainly because of the misguided belief that women will only sleep with them after they have gone through great and elaborate lengths of courting them. The truth is women, being human beings just like men, have the same needs and desires that we do. And that includes sex. They enjoy sex just like we do. A little experience in this area will convince them that this is true. Usually, women hold off from sleeping with men in order to avoid appearing easy or slutty. It is not because they don’t want to.
A final misconception among men is that if they aren’t any good at dealing with women, they aren’t going to get any better. This is not true. Men usually believe this after years of fear rejection. The fact is that they are unsuccessful with women because they have approached women on the basis of misconceptions. Sometimes they have failed because they lack confidence and women can smell this like sharks smelling blood. But once these men learn to overcome their basic misconceptions, they can approach women with confidence and their fortunes will surely improve.

Many of us watch the television programs and films where it portrays a handsome guy and a beautiful woman in a packed club and suddenly he lays eyes on her and they share a moment, simply by looking at each other, and at that point you can see they have chemistry and you can see it in their eyes that they are attracted to each other. But does this really work in real life? Does an opportunity of attracting women when you first see them even possible many wonder?
So many think to communicate, this is done solely through words; however this point is not true. Communication can take place on a deeper level such as through actions or facial expressions. So would it not be right to say then that just like in movies, you can also attract women without the use of words? Well let me tell you this is fact and not fiction. Remember the saying ‘a picture is worth a thousand words’, well a gesture or body language can be far more meaningful then words ever could and when you think about it is the platform to actually talking to the lucky lady and getting to know her.
Women are more tuned to spotting these finer things that men think do not matter, however women the more sensitive sex, definitely find these things vital and more impressive than if you come up to them immediately with a cheesy chat up line.
So project that personality and make her fall head over heels over that crowded dance floor just focusing on these things and you never know she may just come your way.
Now even though this method doesn’t sound like there is much to it, the more you put into it the more you get out. So by showing similar interests through how you act and gestures she will be able to observe.
Take this scenario for example, a male and female are in the shopping centre when they are pushing there trolleys down the same isle and suddenly they both reach out for the same product! And a connection has been started already.
Or another instance is if you are jogging past a hot little number and you slow yourself down so that you are running the same pace as her and look past her in the shop window you are both running beside and this could work in a straight forward way.
A lot can be said through a persons eyes, emotions can be expressed that could not even be expressed through words. This is more than just exchanging a look to catch her eye however. Let’s put this into a practical situation, where you are in a clothes department and you spot the one that you want go for you can move her way as you hold up a shirt that appeals to you. Then you can dazzle her with one of your deep looks as you ask her for her opinion on the item of clothing.

One of the best ways to attract women is to be an alpha male. Put simply, such a person is naturally an attractive male. It does not matter what you wear, or how you look. What matters is how alpha you are. But you may ask…

WHAT IS SO IMPORTANT ABOUT BEING ALPHA?

Simply put, in any animal kingdom scenario, it is always the alpha male, the leader of the pack, who gets to mate with all the females in the pack. Humans, being animals too, observe this behavior also. You would notice that there are some guys who just seem to hit it off with women really well. These guys have multiple girlfriends and they seem to have this special quality about them which girls just can’t resist. On the other hand, there are guys who are single, lonely, with no female company whatsoever. If you happen to fall into the second category of guys mentioned, then it is already obvious that you are a beta male. But here’s the best part…

THE ALPHA QUALITY OF A MAN IS DEPENDENT ON THE MINDSET

Yes. Your alpha factor is mainly dependent on your mindset. Factors like your looks, your money and your clothes are all peripheral factors. If you think like an dominant male, you are an alpha male. On the other hand, you may not be alpha even if you are a swimsuit model, with a huge wallet and a great wardrobe. If you have all that, and your mindset is one of a beta male, then your alpha exterior is but a facade.

It’s a given in the dating scene that women naturally align themselves with guys who occupy a higher place on the proverbial food chain. These guys are typically referred to as the ALPHA MALES.

This type of man is looked up to by many, and all the women in the immediate area are irresistibly drawn to him. What’s ironic is that your veritable “top dog” doesn’t necessarily have the looks of a celebrity, the body of a weightlifter, or the wealth of a CEO.

In fact, lots of materially and politically potent men don’t have the slightest clue to generating genuine and lasting attraction. Women might think they’ll fall for a good -looking guy, but keeping her around takes MORE than that.

As relationship expert Mirabelle Summers, author of MEET YOUR SWEET, says, “To have outrageous success with women, you’ll need to speak their language. But it takes the right material to educate you on such a cryptic matter. After you’ve deciphered the inner workings of the female mind, you’ll totally light up her attraction circuitry right under her radar.”

What attracts women to men? Let’s go over some of the things that will make you more than just an insignificant blip in a woman’s consciousness…

>> Talking the talk…

Your voice is a powerful tool you can use to make women putty in your hands. Think about it – a well-modulated manner of speaking is absolute dynamite to women.

While not of all of us are gifted with a deep set of vocal cords, you can still pull this off. You just have to avoid making some key mistakes that could undo your game.

It’s a common tendency to speak in a wimpy, high-pitched voice when we’re nervous or flustered. As a result, you’ll sound girly, and lack confidence.

MAJOR TURN-OFF!

Don’t let your voice betray your nervousness. Practice with the way you talk so you don’t give away that you’re not as collected as you seem.

Here’s a suggestion: get accustomed to controlling your voice through some daily exercises you can repeat several times. Stop pulling your voice out of your throat; instead, make it register deep down in your gut.

Pushing your voice out from the abdominal area adds power. But don’t try speaking in this manner right off the bat. Do some humming or even singing exercises so that the sound you produce comes from your diaphragm.

Get used to speaking properly all the time until you’re no longer “faking it”. As such, having a pleasant voice will become a natural part of your personality and sexuality. Ultimately, you’ll feel more confident in the fact that your deep, evenly paced and masculine voice will greatly affect someone’s reactions, specifically with the ladies.

>> Walking The Walk…

Of course, your voice should also match the way you move. Body language is a huge, make-or-break factor that will INSTANTLY tell a woman what kind of guy you are.

Is an alpha male fidgety? Does nervous energy manifest strong leadership qualities?

Definitely NOT. A high-value guy sets himself apart by using his body to express his winning attitude.

He’s relaxed and at ease, but never leans into anyone’s active space. In the same way, a PUA would automatically blow his approach if he ever leaned into a woman’s “territorial bubble” because that signifies that he’s out to impress her. That’s not how an alpha male rolls.

Think about how it looks from her perspective. You’re waiting for what she has to say, and your voice is too weak that you have to lean towards her just to be heard. That’s hardly the mark of a high-value male.

If anything, you should stand with your feet at shoulder length apart. Not too wide that you look overly cocky, but not too close that you seem sorry for the space you’re occupying.

As our mothers, teachers and countless figures of authority have told us in the past, slouching is for losers. A weak, rounded posture will cause “WIMP” to be written all over you.

Also, make large, sweeping movements that appear natural, as opposed to quick gestures that make it look like you’re living in a stop-motion animation TV show (watch “Gumby” to see what I mean).

This also applies to the way you walk, which should be SMOOTH and evenly paced. Let your arms swing slightly, and don’t allow them to flail around.

Alpha Male Stylin’ 101…

Hygiene and fashion form another important aspect of maintaining your social value. Essentially, what women want is a guy who’s MATURE enough to groom and dress like a confident man.

Self-respecting women won’t bother wasting any time with a man who doesn’t pay attention to DETAILS. For example, if you had poorly managed teeth or reeked of body odor, do you think she’ll want to know what the rest of you is like?

Don’t think that any guy is the exception to good grooming and dressing sensibly. No man is going to land a real relationship if he places himself above this simple dating prerequisite.

Even if you’re interesting, witty, and have a great sense of humor, a woman can’t appreciate all of that under a nasty exterior of unkempt and unwashed hair, or if you dress like a post-apocalyptic refugee.

The overall way you present yourself is what matters here. Don’t let a horrid sense of hygiene and style get in the way of meeting the dolled-up, sweet smelling women that attract you.

It’s only fair that you meet them halfway. It’s not like you’d be interested to go out with someone who was too lazy to brush her teeth, shower or shave her legs, am I right?

So make it a habit to be always meticulously CLEAN. If you ever want a beautiful woman to snuggle up against your body, you’re gonna have to make that EFFORT.

Here’s a basic, top-to-toe list of things to watch out for:

- Consult with a reputable stylist on which hairstyle suits you in terms of age and body frame. He/she will be able to figure out if you’re better off growing out your hair, or if the clean-cut look is more appropriate.

- A dentist can clean your teeth and advise you on best dental practices to keep your smile looking bright. Also, don’t forget to brush after every meal, floss often and use mouthwash.

- Moisturize on a daily basis. I understand that there are many guys out there that think moisturizing is the first step on a slippery slope to femininity, but trust me, women like guys that look after their skin. If you are around the same age as her, it pays to look like her boyfriend rather than her father. A guy that looks after his assets is one that is going to continue to look good as he gets older, rather than looking worn down and weather-beaten.

- Bathe once or twice a day at the very least. There’s no excuse for smelling bad, so pay attention to the areas that need adequate washing. Use a good deodorant, and if necessary, keep a spray deodorant in your car or work bag for times when you need a little freshen up. Like I said, a woman won’t be enticed to get in close proximity with someone who doesn’t smell good.

- Get a friend to give you an unbiased opinion on the kind of clothes that will suit your body type. Have him or her check out the stuff in your closet to figure out which clothes you can keep in active duty or retire permanently. If that’s not an option, drop by a decent clothing store and have the staff guide you on which shirts, belts, pants and shoes will match you. A few basics that you can mix and match will set your wardrobe up really well, and enable you to mix new pieces with some of the older stuff you have saved. It may set you back a few hundred bucks, but you’ll thank yourself for doing it later on.

- Lastly, get off your ass and get some exercise. You don’t have to look like Dr. Manhattan from “Watchmen”, but you should at least show the world you’re making an effort to maintain your body and keep fit. Knowing that you’re taking care of yourself can greatly boost your self-confidence, lift your spirits, and help keep things in place. Not only will you look good, you will feel good! While fitness clubs are ok, try signing up for places that are fairly populated. Not only will you keep fit, you can also enhance your social skills by interacting with the fellow patrons (which include women, of course!).

You may think to yourself, it’s unbelievable that you do not know how to attract women and that you are still single now. You know you are not ugly. In fact, some say that you are charming. Well, given that it was your Aunt Hilda and Uncle Barney who said that and they are, by blood-duty, forced to say nice things to you, don’t you think they will go as far as lie to your face? You also know that you have a great character. There is nothing weird about you that can lead people to think they should stay away from you if they want to live. But why can’t you seem to get the interest of that girl in your office or that barista in your favorite coffee shop? Here are some of the easiest tips and tricks to get her look your way, or even more.
1. Look presentable. Think of it this way, you may just be walking out of the door to throw the trash but you never know if that cute neighbor of yours is looking. So before stepping out of your door, brush that mess of a hair and please, put on some pants.
2. Smell nice. Some men think that buying that cheap men’s cologne over at Rite Aid is the answer on the question how to attract women. No, fact of the matter is, so long as you smell clean and that your nails do not have dirt in them, then you are all set.
3. Have an air of confidence in you. And by confident, this does not mean arrogant. Say what you do proudly, walk tall and when you talk to people, never use a twitchy voice. If you do end up stuttering, talk slower and modulate your voice. This helps you sound more confident.
4. Be a gentleman. Offer to carry some of her load if ever she passes by your area and she seems to be hauling an entire kitchen showcase. Most women may exude the aura of independence but lending a hand is not a bad gesture to be remembered by.
5. Find the courage to get to know her more. Say you are lucky enough to ride the elevator with her. Work up the courage to open your mouth to say a simple greeting, like “Hi,” or “Good Morning.”
6. Act like you know your manners. If you show her your barbaric ways, like shouting at the valet or getting really worked up with the cleaning lady in your office, then this shows some nasty behavior that most women do not want to undergo through.
These 6 how to attract women tips are very effective because they are tested and tried ways on how women start to get interested. Try applying them even just for 4 weeks and see how much you’ve improved your chances in attracting the ladies. Who knows, you may even finally get the attention of that childhood sweetheart you have been pining for since forever.