Speed dating is actually a very convenient way of meeting girls. True it is challenging and rather nerve wrecking but it is also the best way of choosing a date. In one room you can meet any number of girls; it ought to be cool, right? Sadly in most cases it is not so. Speed dating requires totally different rules and guys who can normally charm women at other places fail to attract women here.

What does speed dating require? Well, here’s a simple question and the answer to that is also rather simple. You have to impress a girl in few minutes. The first approach should be what you should eliminate. In the sense that you cannot tell her or show her everything about yourself in say ten minutes, so you need to cut out certain aspects.

Don’t talk to her about yourself besides the mandatory introduction. Let her talk instead. Look full into her eyes but don’t make her feel intimidated. Please don’t pierce into her soul rather your glance should be soft and gentle.

Dress smartly but also sensibly. Find out what looks best on yourself and wear that. Don’t overdress, as in; don’t wear your Sunday best. She shouldn’t get the feeling that you are trying too hard to get a date. It’s obvious that all the girls and guys who attend this speed dating session are all on the lookout for partners, but there is a general difference between looking out and desperately looking out. Girls hate guys who are needy or come on too strongly. Hence play it cool and keep your hormones in check. She should be able to get the feeling that you will be cool even if you don’t get a girl right then.

Peak her interest and then move on to the next girl. She should have the feeling that there is a lot more to discuss with you. Do not ask for her phone number. If she wants to give you she will do it without you asking for it. Talk to her intelligently. Since you will get only ten minutes, do not start a discourse on a philosophical topic or on something that is equally heavy, instead talk about something that is funny and interesting.

Make the girl feel comfortable. Remember that she is doing the same thing as you hence the chances are that she is as apprehensive and as uncomfortable as you are. Crack a joke, smile a lot and lighten the atmosphere.

Have a good body language. It is very important that you speak to the girl through your body posture and movements rather than your mouth as there will be hardly any time to do that. Keep your shoulders straight and your movement fluid. Have an easy smile on your face and always look deeply into her eyes. Touch her hands at times so that she feels comforted. Do not try to do anything sexual with the girl as she will not like it.

When trying to learn how to attract women, confidence goes a long way. If you project an aura of confidence, it will show. The way you move, the clothes you wear, the way you approach a woman and your reaction when they approach you will all echo and magnify the confidence you exude. Women want a confident man. The slacker guy in the corner with a drink isn’t getting all the ladies; the guy at the bar chatting with his friends or confidently surveying the scene is. Not normally the most confident Joe? Get yourself pumped up for the night with listing your own favorable attributes or accomplished. If worse comes to worse, a little physical activity has been know to get the adrenaline flowing and bring most men to life.

Maybe high confidence levels are your Achilles heel. Why not try humor? Now just because you can crack jokes with your buddies does not mean you should start pulling out all the stops and trying to be the stand up comedian for the night. Rein it in and made it appropriate. In fact, being cocky and funny will actually score you a few points with the ladies. What woman doesn’t appreciate a good sense of humor? A shared laugh can lighten an otherwise dull atmosphere, and keep the good vibrations rolling. Add a dash of cocky attitude and you’ll have her drawn into the conversation even more. Mess with her a little bit; just make sure she gets that it was just a joke before things take an awkward turn.

In the end, if you want her to be the star of your show for the night, you have to talk to her. Learning how to attract women is the just the first step. Developing your own technique for the approach and continuation of the festivities will make certain that you reach the goal you desire.

Sound familiar? Of course it does, because so many men today find it difficult when it comes to approaching and talking to women.

Have you often wondered how come some of the most unattractive guys are dating beautiful girls, girls you can only dream about? Surely, you think to yourself, if he can do it so can I, but somehow you just don’t have the confidence or the ‘know how’ to be able to attract the sort of girls you really fancy.

Some guys just seem to say the right things at the right time, act in a certain way with women, and the women love them, and of course it’s these same guys who always seem to be dating gorgeous looking girls.

Is this luck? No, these guys are simply using the right actions and techniques, and the good news is that these techniques can be learned. Attracting women is more of a science than an art form.

Of course you can do all the obvious things like losing weight/gain weight, build up your muscles, dress nicely etc. and these things may help a little, especially with your confidence, but this is not enough. Remember the unattractive guys who are able to date those beautiful girls? What you need is to learn the right techniques, actions and tricks that make you attractive to women.

This all may sound fairly frivolous but this is actually an important issue as there are hundreds of lonely and miserable men out there and in most cases all they need is a little confidence and the right guidance and their lives could be turned around.

If you are one of those guys who find it hard to attract women then you owe it to yourself to discover these techniques, put them into practice and turn your life around.

Often men just “go for it” and consequently end up making the girl feel uncomfortable or even slightly violated because of their rushed attempt at physical closeness. Other men decide they don’t want to risk putting a girl off, so hold back any kind of touching or bodily contact – doing so usually sends out the wrong message, that the guy is either not interested in the girl, or that he’s simply too timid to show it, neither of which are attractive scenarios in the mind of a good-looking, fun-loving girl. Okay, so what’s the solution to this awkward problem?

Quite simply, you just need to follow a few basic rules or procedures, all of which conform to the personal boundaries of most girl (and therefore don’t appear uncalled for or rushed) but at the same time clearly indicate that you’re a confident guy who’s not afraid of getting to know girls and even showing it through casual, relaxed physical contact. So, let’s take a look.

1. Many men think that touching a girl in any way when they first meet them is an absolute no-no. But that’s simply not true. To form a positive, strong first impression and create an immediate bond with a girl when you first introduce yourself or get talking, casually and gently touch the outside of her right arm while at the same time verbally expressing something. The outside of a woman’s arm is not intimate enough a place for the touch to feel strange or out-of-place, but at the same time it’s a clear-cut sign that you’re a personable, socially adept kind of guy. Don’t be afraid to give it a try – you’ll notice the benefits immediately.

2. Once you’ve started a conversation with a girl, or when you randomly find yourself chatting to a woman you really like the look of, it’s important to keep up the physical contact. Doing so helps maintain the bond and rapport you’ve already created and also helps build it further, into mutually felt sexual attraction. You can use something called ‘Stealth Tactility’ to do this. Quite simply, stealth tactility involves making physical contact with the girl in a disguised way. For example, if she wants to go to the bar or bathroom but doesn’t know the way, you can use stealth tactility by placing your hand on her shoulder, drawing her in a little closer, swivelling both of your bodies round until you face in the right direction, then point past other people or obstacles with your other hand to where she needs to go.

3. Lastly, always try to use a ‘contact close’ when you finish your conversation with a girl. For example, after swapping numbers or arranging to meet again, give her a kiss on the cheek or a hug and a kiss. Many men think that the hard work’s been done once something’s been arranged for a later date, but making physical contact before you part with a girl is always a great way of ensuring she remembers you and really cannot wait to see you again.

Stop and think for a moment. The guy mentioned before in the story…what instantly drew all of the attention to him? His outward appearance…we live in a shallow world but at least we know it! Do you look like you just walked off the cover of GQ or just came in from taking out the trash? You don’t have to be the male model type to get women to notice you; you just have to “dress for success”. Clean hair, clean shaven (or kept facial hair), clean clothes, clean teeth, clean smell…notice a trend here? She knows you don’t sit in a bubble everyday, but the dirt and grime can wait to make an appearance until later in the relationship. You are the salesman selling your product. Be the best product you can be!

Now that the outward appearance is settled, we must pay attention to the most powerful yet widely forgotten tool for attracting women…confidence. Exude confidence in everything you do, say, wear; just don’t be cocky. It is a fine line between the two my friend and you don’t want to get caught in the middle. Show your confidence by standing out, not slumping in the corner. Emphasize it by looking her in the eyes when speaking to her, not just at her chest. Be in the moment with conversation to show your interest and keep the momentum going. If she doesn’t seem interested, have the confidence to walk away with your pride intact; not everyone is going to be madly in love or lust with you no matter how much of a Casanova you claim to be.

Just remember, there are many suggested tips for attracting women. Do your research; ask your buddies for their sure fire methods. Take what you need, leave what you don’t and create your own personal style of approach. It’s you that you want her interested in, not them.

Stop and think for a moment. The guy mentioned before in the story…what instantly drew all of the attention to him? His outward appearance…we live in a shallow world but at least we know it! Do you look like you just walked off the cover of GQ or just came in from taking out the trash? You don’t have to be the male model type to get women to notice you; you just have to “dress for success”. Clean hair, clean shaven (or kept facial hair), clean clothes, clean teeth, clean smell…notice a trend here? She knows you don’t sit in a bubble everyday, but the dirt and grime can wait to make an appearance until later in the relationship. You are the salesman selling your product. Be the best product you can be!

Now that the outward appearance is settled, we must pay attention to the most powerful yet widely forgotten tool for attracting women…confidence. Exude confidence in everything you do, say, wear; just don’t be cocky. It is a fine line between the two my friend and you don’t want to get caught in the middle. Show your confidence by standing out, not slumping in the corner. Emphasize it by looking her in the eyes when speaking to her, not just at her chest. Be in the moment with conversation to show your interest and keep the momentum going. If she doesn’t seem interested, have the confidence to walk away with your pride intact; not everyone is going to be madly in love or lust with you no matter how much of a Casanova you claim to be.

Just remember, there are many suggested tips for attracting women. Do your research; ask your buddies for their sure fire methods. Take what you need, leave what you don’t and create your own personal style of approach. It’s you that you want her interested in, not them.