Posts Tagged ‘body language’

Women commonly complain about drunken guys grabbing them, or guys coming up and getting in their face. What these guys are doing is putting too much pressure on an interaction too early.
If approached in the right way, with the right body language, you will never be harshly rejected. Here are the rules for body language in interactions with women.
1. Dont Lock-in Too Early
When you approach a woman, dont stand right in front of her and get in her face. Approach more casually slightly to the side, and follow this rule: your feet should not be pointing towards her and only your head should be facing her. When you do this, she doesnt feel an immediate pressure and the interaction is more comfortable in the early stages until she gets used to you.
2. Dont Peck
In a noisy environment, the natural tendency is to lean in and speak in her ear. Leaning in looks needy. Stay where you are and get her to lean in to you, this makes it look like she is picking you up. If you can lean on the bar and have her leaning in to you, the psychological effect on her and others is very strong. When sitting, dont lean in, lean back.
3. Use Gestures
When you are speaking, dont keep stiff and rigid, make gestures. This makes you more interesting, and, more importantly, it is more natural to work in touches smoothly when you gesture. If you have your hands in your pockets and then try to touch her arm, it will be very weird. Do not fidget in set, if you fidget naturally, gesture instead, it gives your hands something to do.
4. Touch
People like to be touched. Touch without sleazy intentions and it shows. If you gesture and move around a lot, you seem naturally tactile and your touches will be welcome and acceptable.
5. Master Eye Contact
Firstly, holding eye contact holds a womans attention more effectively, secondly it works on the attraction centres in the brain. You must hold eye contact at all times for these two reasons. Eye contact builds up sexual interest and attraction.
You will be more attracted to a girl that holds good eye contact than one that cant look you in the eye, the same is true for womens attraction to you. If there is more than one person in the group you are talking to, spread the eye contact around to hold interest. Another important rule comes in here: never look down, its a sign of weakness. Look to the side or up if you must look away.
Follow these guidelines and you will get better reactions from women, make them feel more relaxed and comfortable with you and at the same time more attracted.

You’re at your favorite hang out with the guys. All of you made the mad dash home after work, spruced up as quickly as you could, and met one another at the watering hole to catch the last part of Happy Hour. It’s a Friday night so the place is a bit more crowded and a bit noisier than usual. The evening progresses nicely, the jukebox is being fed plenty of dollars and good music is playing, and then WHAM!!! In walks the most beautiful woman you have ever laid eyes on in years. And you wonder where she has been all your life.
Well, for the last four hours or so, she was at home showering, then standing in front of her full length mirror making sure she was wearing the most magnetic dress she had in her closet, and then finally sitting down in front of her vanity mirror for an hour or so making up her face and styling her hair to look stunningly flawless. Here’s the rub. She was already drop-dead-gorgeous, so why on earth did she go through all this trouble?
Simply stated, to attract the right guy with as little competition as possible. She was increasing her odds by maximizing her strengths to attract the right man. And yes, I am totally serious. Millions of women go through this ritual every time they go out for an evening with the idea of finding a man as their priority.
Moving right along, we have come to that part in the discussion that will tell you why the above is such valuable information. Deep within everyone’s psychological core are the commonly joined principles of approval and attraction. The amount of approval a person feels is based solely on the amount of attention they receive. And most women have that little subconscious ‘They-like-me/they-don’t-like-me’ meter turned on when they enter a social setting.
But be careful Luke Skywalker. That disturbance in the force is coming from the Dark Side of this facet. Just like other emotions and feelings that trigger the brain’s potentially addictive chemicals, nothing can turn more addictive than the interaction that occurs between approval and attention. But the truly interesting thing about what happens to a woman when she becomes attracted to you, is that she loses the ability to control that attraction, and then the entire situation. She wasn’t even remotely thinking about you and then suddenly, it just jumped up and bit her right in the sitting-oriented part of her anatomy.
I can’t emphasize this enough, but if you are interacting with this beauty that spent all that time preparing for the evening, elaborating on her beauty and how overwhelmed you are with it is exactly what you want to avoid. Why? Because it will shift that control over to her, empowering her in the process, and she will saunter on to the next opportunity leaving you adrift in the wind like the leaf in the beginning and the end of the movie, Forrest Gump.
When she has lost the control by virtue of that attraction factor, she becomes the pursuer and you become the pursued. Once this has happened, and you don’t let your ego destroy what you set out to accomplish. Keep her interested, keep her entertained, but most of all give her what she wanted when she first walked in the place — approval and the confidence of knowing that she has found ‘the right guy’ to be with.

Attract Women with the Right Body Language (advice, tips and hints)

Your body language tells people around you about your state. People read body language subconsciously, in fact it is one of the most important areas to know when it comes to being social.

We as humans, communicate a lot using our body language. Quiet often, we don’t even realise this. Let’s try an exercise: assume a sad posture, put your head down, look at the floor and try to smile and say “I am a happy person!” I bet you can’t even do it as it’s physically impossible and feels wrong. Now, stand straight, look up, smile and say “I am very sad!” Seems weird, right? You see, the reason why you feel this way is because your state is affected by your body and your body is affected by your state.

So if you are stuck with body language problems and don’t know how to correct it, here are some quick ways to start eliciting positive body language signs:

Change your posture, stop slouching and keep your back straight. Keep your feet wide apart when standing. Use more space when you sit, lean back, get comfortable, take all the space you can, just don’t be rude to others in doing so.

Avoid crossing your arms as it makes you look angry or displeased.

Start smiling more, but do not have a frozen smile on your face, animate it.

Soon, you will start noticing positive changes. People will start treating you with more respect, your confidence will start to climb and overall, you will feel much happier deep down. The trick here is, the more you go by these guidelines and use them everyday, the sooner you will “inherit” these body language traits for good.

Most guys will have a hard time when it comes to talking to a woman. If you are a single guy and you want to succeed with women and jump start your dating life, then you have to know how to use conversation to attract a woman. When you meet a single woman, she will be judging you more on how you handle yourself and how you make HER feel. If you know how to use conversation as a way to attract a woman, then you will be golden.

So, how should you talk to a woman?

1. Build rapport. Conversation is a great way to build rapport with a woman. When you can strike common ground with her, you will be building rapport which can lead to attraction. It can also lead to just friendship, so you want to make sure that the conversation is not just platonic in nature.

2. Make her laugh. Being able to make a woman laugh when you are talking to her is a huge plus. A conversation without humor can too easily seem boring and mundane. And this is NOT going to make her feel that spark that will lead to attraction. So, go ahead and make her laugh.

3. Use your body language. While you are talking to her, you want to make sure that you are using your body language the right way. Women are great at picking up on body language and this can either seal the deal or kill any possible attraction with her.

You have to know how to talk to women if you really want to spice up your dating life and experience more success with women.

Some guys have all the luck. They walk into a room and almost instantly they have all the beautiful women at their side. Wish you were that guy? You can be, or at least your own version of him. Maybe you want to be the main attraction and put on a show. Maybe you just want to command the attention of that one beautiful creature that walked in the room. Whatever the case may be, utilizing a few tips on attracting women never hurt anyone.

Stop and think for a moment. The guy mentioned before in the story…what instantly drew all of the attention to him? His outward appearance…we live in a shallow world but at least we know it! Do you look like you just walked off the cover of GQ or just came in from taking out the trash? You don’t have to be the male model type to get women to notice you; you just have to “dress for success”. Clean hair, clean shaven (or kept facial hair), clean clothes, clean teeth, clean smell…notice a trend here? She knows you don’t sit in a bubble everyday, but the dirt and grime can wait to make an appearance until later in the relationship. You are the salesman selling your product. Be the best product you can be!

Now that the outward appearance is settled, we must pay attention to the most powerful yet widely forgotten tool for attracting women…confidence. Exude confidence in everything you do, say, wear; just don’t be cocky. It is a fine line between the two my friend and you don’t want to get caught in the middle. Show your confidence by standing out, not slumping in the corner. Emphasize it by looking her in the eyes when speaking to her, not just at her chest. Be in the moment with conversation to show your interest and keep the momentum going. If she doesn’t seem interested, have the confidence to walk away with your pride intact; not everyone is going to be madly in love or lust with you no matter how much of a Casanova you claim to be.

Just remember, there are many suggested tips for attracting women. Do your research; ask your buddies for their sure fire methods. Take what you need, leave what you don’t and create your own personal style of approach. It’s you that you want her interested in, not them.