Posts Tagged ‘Attraction’

You’re at your favorite hang out with the guys. All of you made the mad dash home after work, spruced up as quickly as you could, and met one another at the watering hole to catch the last part of Happy Hour. It’s a Friday night so the place is a bit more crowded and a bit noisier than usual. The evening progresses nicely, the jukebox is being fed plenty of dollars and good music is playing, and then WHAM!!! In walks the most beautiful woman you have ever laid eyes on in years. And you wonder where she has been all your life.
Well, for the last four hours or so, she was at home showering, then standing in front of her full length mirror making sure she was wearing the most magnetic dress she had in her closet, and then finally sitting down in front of her vanity mirror for an hour or so making up her face and styling her hair to look stunningly flawless. Here’s the rub. She was already drop-dead-gorgeous, so why on earth did she go through all this trouble?
Simply stated, to attract the right guy with as little competition as possible. She was increasing her odds by maximizing her strengths to attract the right man. And yes, I am totally serious. Millions of women go through this ritual every time they go out for an evening with the idea of finding a man as their priority.
Moving right along, we have come to that part in the discussion that will tell you why the above is such valuable information. Deep within everyone’s psychological core are the commonly joined principles of approval and attraction. The amount of approval a person feels is based solely on the amount of attention they receive. And most women have that little subconscious ‘They-like-me/they-don’t-like-me’ meter turned on when they enter a social setting.
But be careful Luke Skywalker. That disturbance in the force is coming from the Dark Side of this facet. Just like other emotions and feelings that trigger the brain’s potentially addictive chemicals, nothing can turn more addictive than the interaction that occurs between approval and attention. But the truly interesting thing about what happens to a woman when she becomes attracted to you, is that she loses the ability to control that attraction, and then the entire situation. She wasn’t even remotely thinking about you and then suddenly, it just jumped up and bit her right in the sitting-oriented part of her anatomy.
I can’t emphasize this enough, but if you are interacting with this beauty that spent all that time preparing for the evening, elaborating on her beauty and how overwhelmed you are with it is exactly what you want to avoid. Why? Because it will shift that control over to her, empowering her in the process, and she will saunter on to the next opportunity leaving you adrift in the wind like the leaf in the beginning and the end of the movie, Forrest Gump.
When she has lost the control by virtue of that attraction factor, she becomes the pursuer and you become the pursued. Once this has happened, and you don’t let your ego destroy what you set out to accomplish. Keep her interested, keep her entertained, but most of all give her what she wanted when she first walked in the place — approval and the confidence of knowing that she has found ‘the right guy’ to be with.

Do you know the ONE thing which is most attractive to women?
You’re completely wrong if you answered looks, youth or money, then!
The truth is women are always attracted to guys with unique and interesting personalities. In order to be successful with women, you have to know the right kind of characteristics to display to women.
In the next few minutes, you’ll learn the most important personality traits to display that will draw women to you. Let’s get started…
Personality Trait #1- Confidence
Whenever you’re talking to women, you have to show absolute confidence in yourself. No matter what happens or comes up, you should act like it doesn’t faze you. A confident guy can roll with the punches and handle himself in all situations.
Personality Trait #2- Mysterious
When you first meet women, you want to project a mysterious personality. What you want to do is meet women, and not be specific about your life. Instead of taking the time to talk about your background, learn to tell interesting stories about what you’ve done or things that have happened to you.
In other words, let your personality shine through. Not your background or social status.
Personality Trait #3- Desirable
I’m going to be honest here…
Women like guys who are pursued by other women. To trigger this reaction, you should flirt and meet with multiple women, instead of trying to attract a single one.
So next time you’re in public, try meeting and flirting with different women. Eventually you’ll find that there will be a few women who are competing for your attention.
Personality Trait #4- Center of attention
When you display this trait, you’ll become the guy who captivates the interest of every person you meet. In order to display this trait, you have to establish yourself as an authority with interesting things to say.
When you become the focal point of a room, you’ll be able to easily draw beautiful women to you.
Personality Trait #5- Fun to be around
An attractive guy is somebody who can bring fun and excitement to a conversation. If you can make women enjoy themselves when they’re around you, then it’ll be easy to attract them.
So instead of talking about serious stuff like work, school or your family, try to behave in a flirtatious manner and talk about fun things.
Personality Trait #6- Strength
Having a strong personality is one of the best ways attract women.
You can show this personality by always looking a woman in the eye and maintaining length eye contact. In addition, you should be a person who sets high standards and lives by them.
Personality Trait #7- Be challenging
One mistake other guys make is to be too aggressive with women.
Instead of doing this, you should try make her work for your attraction. For instance, you should do a few things leaves her wondering if you like her. The more she has to work for your affections, the more she’ll be into you.
In order to attract women, you must have a unique personality.
By cultivating the traits that I’ve described in this article, you’ll become the type of guy who can stand out from the crowd. All you have to do is practice demonstrating these traits, and you’ll dramatically increase your success with women.

Have you ever banged your head against the wall because women just don’t want to go on a date with you? Have you ever been frustrated because attractive women only see you as a friend? It’s because you don’t know the secret of attracting women.

You see, if you want to be able to meet and talk to women you have to communicate slightly different than you would to your buddies.

Most guys can’t do that. They don’t know that to get women attracted to you, you need to talk to them on a different level. At least 9 out of 10 guys don’t have a clue how to do that so they turn to what the media has been telling them would work.

You know…tell a woman how beautiful she is, take her out to dinner, bring her flowers and tell her you like her to show your affection. But does it really work when you want to meet and date a woman in the 21st century? Not really.

This may sound like a shock to you but women don’t feel emotionally attracted and would want to kiss you if you behave like the shining knight in armor that rescues the princess.

This isn’t Hollywood, this is real life.

I know this sounds a bit weird but the only way to make women respond to you sexually is to flirt with them in a special way. Most guys don’t know that secret, and that’s why they always end up being just another friend or don’t even get anywhere in the first place.

Here’s what usually happens…

You know this beautiful woman that you really like and want to have a date with, but you just don’t know what to say or do to get her. Then, you finally assemble enough courage to walk up to her and ask her “Hi, I saw you a couple times now and just wanted to come over and ask you if you want to have a drink sometime. Or how about dinner tonight?”

She will be flattered, think you are cute and that it was a nice gesture of you to come over but has to say “I would but I have a boyfriend, I’m sorry”.

So here’s my question to you. No it’s not a question, I want you to think about this so you get the bigger picture of what’s going on here: How come you have so many women that give you the SAME boyfriend excuse over and over again?

Isn’t that weird? Could it be that they just want to tell you “Thanks but no thanks” in a nice way?

You bet!

You see, they don’t feel sexually attracted to you because you didn’t push her right buttons that create that gut level feeling for her.

You were just like every other guy out there. What you need is to be DIFFERENT.

Here’s what I want you to do from now on: STOP acting like a clingy, needy nice-guy! Don’t ask women out for drinks, don’t treat them like a princess and never ever be nice to her.

Women are NOT attracted to nice guys, that’s why the bad boy always ends up with the girl and the nice guys finish last. In Hollywood movies, the cute nice guy always gets the girl. But in real life it’s the complete opposite.

If you want to become a master at the art of attracting women, you need to start acting like a man and not a doormat. Don’t be nice, polite and pay them wimpy compliments hoping they will like you. Be a challenge, be cocky and be bad!

So, instead of saying “You know, I just wanted to tell you that you look very beautiful. Can I take you out sometime?” … be bad and say…

“So what else do you apart from picking up cute guys like me? If you promise to be nice I let you buy me a drink evil grin”

Ultimately, being a cheeky bad boy is what gets you the girl. Period!