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Many men agree that attracting women who are older (28+) is easier because women at that age tend to allow your personality to shine more so than younger women (18-27).
The argument usually centers around younger women being too ‘flighty’ and less interested in being serious for too long in an interaction.
Those suggestions are partly true.
Generally speaking and compared to older women, younger women don’t have as much experience with sexual courtships and the ins and outs of dating, love and relationships.
To a younger woman, being all giggly and energetic may be her best way of socializing, connecting with you and expressing her happiness with you in a situation.
If you can’t ‘vibe’ with her on that sort of level, then she might see you as ‘weird’ or ‘boring’.
Additionally, a younger woman might thoroughly enjoy watching movies where Hollywood stars demonstrate passionate and interesting sexual courtships, but will be clueless as to how to make it happen for herself in real-life.
This inexperience on the younger woman’s part might leave you thinking that she isn’t interested or doesn’t like you, or that attracting women of that age is too hard. However, it is more likely that you are incorrectly reading her signals, or lack thereof.
Generally speaking, an older woman will have had more experience with dating and be able to give you more obvious and effective signals of interest so attracting women of that age will seem easier.
An older woman might also express her happiness with you in a situation by using more ‘interested’ facial expressions, body language and tonality and involving herself in longer and more meaningful conversations with you.
Now, I’ve been using the words ‘generally speaking’ because, as you may have experienced, some younger women are very mature, sexually and socially.
One of my girlfriends from last year was 21 years old (I’m 29). She understood things about dating and sex that you’d expect from someone much, much older.
When we first met, our conversations and interactions, while flirty and fun, were also deep and mature.
If you aren’t attracting women between the age of 18-27 and then moving it towards the point of having a younger girlfriend, then you may simply be going about it in the wrong way.
Here’s an example…
I was coaching a client in Sydney a couple of weekends back. As we vibed with two younger women in a popular city bar, there was an old, black & white cartoon playing in the background.
The two younger women were very energetic and giggly, so I geared the conversation towards the cartoon, cartoons in general and the funny things that cartoon characters do, for about one or two minutes.
We all had a good laugh. We then we talked about some ‘normal stuff’ relating to the bar we were in, for a minute or two, and then went back to talking about some other ‘fun stuff.’
I lead the women through a conversation that had emotional variance, in a way that they could relate and contribute to. Afterwards, my client commented with amazement on how the two women just naturally took to me.
Here’s the thing though: Regardless of how skilled I am at meeting and attracting women, the interaction would not have gone so well if I had tried to interact with the two younger women by focusing on ‘normal, boring stuff’ and then expecting them to want to stay there and experience that sort of vibe.
They had a different energy level and way of interacting, so I adapted to the situation.
If you want to beging successfully attracting women of all ages, then you are going to need to learn how to be flexible with the various personality types you meet.
A quick disclaimer: I’m not saying that you should not be yourself, or that you should pretend to be interested in talking about cartoons.
Hell, one of my favourite subjects second to dating advice is transhumanism, but talking about the mind-blowing possibilities of science just doesn’t seem to enthrall 99% of women in bar environments!
…especially younger women. So, I adapt in order to be effective…and it works every time.
Note: Once you begin dating, you’ll be surprised at how interested women will be in who you are, what you know, what you like talking about and where you’re going with your life.
However, before you even get to that enjoyable place, you’re going to need to learn how to adapt and explore interactions and conversations based on the unique individuals you meet.
I can’t remember who said this, but I think it’s an awesome take on calibrating to the situation. I think it might have been Samuel L. Jackson on some TV show when they interviewed him.
Anyway, the ‘guy’ said: “The epitome of cool, is being able to walk into a room full of strangers and get along with everyone on their level, while still being yourself.”
Now get out there and start attracting women!

When it comes to attracting women believe it or not it really is quite simple.

Now, even though attracting women is simple it doesn’t mean that it is going to be easy; especially if it isn’t already easy for you to attract women at this time in your life.

Right now for many of you not attracting women comes real easy for you which means your current beliefs and habits when it comes to attracting women isn’t going getting you the results you want with women.

Unfortunately for you your current beliefs and habits when it comes to not attracting women are easier to follow and do than beginning to make the simple changes it takes in order to attract women.

In other words, you must leave your comfort zone and start doing the things that at first you might not be comfortable doing yet already know will help you attract women.

Then again there are those among you who will decide that staying in your comfort zone and not attracting women is much easier than simply making the changes you can, now attract women.

Hopefully you have decided to make it simple and start making the changes you must in order to attract women instead of taking the easy way out.

For those of you who have decided to make it simple and begin attracting women now, perhaps you are wondering what these simple steps are exactly?

Isn’t it amazing how when you have decided to make those simple changes you know you must you begin to notice that the resources you need are a simple click or email away.

When it comes to attracting women, there are certain things that will practically guarantee that you succeed. One such way is being able to make a woman SMILE. If you can make a woman smile on a regular basis, then you are as good as gold. Some men have a hard time though figuring out ways to make a woman smile. When they run out of ideas, that’s it. They are done.

Here are a few tips to help you make her smile:

1. Joke around in a playful way with her. You don’t want to be mean or to sound like a fifth grader with potty humor. Just make sure that you can connect with a woman through humor. This is an easy way to make a woman smile and keep her thoughts locked on YOU.

2. Do something SPECIAL for her. When you do something special for a woman out of the blue, it has PROFOUND meaning. See, a lot of guys will try to do things for her non stop and so it starts to lose some its appeal and luster. When you do something special for her once in a while and it comes as a total surprise, she will smile and remember it for a LONG time.

3. Take her out dancing. Almost every single woman I have ever been with has enjoyed dancing. Even the shy ones that swore they would never get out on the floor wound up smiling from ear to ear. And I can’t even dance that well.

One of the worst pieces of advice that seems to go around in terms of attracting women, is that you have to know certain pick up lines that work every single time. Trying to figure out the perfect line to run on a woman is a complete and total waste of time. You see, attractive women hear these lines ALL of the time. And it does more to annoy them than it does to attract them.

What should you do instead?

First of all, your approach should seem natural. Like I said before, beautiful women are used to having guys approach them and they are usually naturally resistant if they think that all you are doing is trying to pick them up. You have to do something different.

When you approach her in a much more natural way, she will be far less likely to throw up any resistance at all. Unless of course, she is just naturally “bitchy” which may be a good sign to try another woman.

Seducing a woman and making her feel attracted to you is about getting her to feel comfortable and “unguarded.” When you are able to do this, it just seems like there is a connection there and that is what most women want to feel. Of course, you are “making” that connection happen, it just does not seem that way to her.

Forget the pick up lines and the cheesy high school style game. What you want to do is to understand how to create attraction as well as how women respond and what they respond to. This will help you achieve success with women and become a natural.

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Being able to attract women is not something that most men are ever taught. This is something that you have to learn on your own for the most part. And because of this, you will have to go through a lot of trail and error. This of course can lead to many rejections and frustrations and make you wonder what it is that really works to attract a woman. You don’t have to worry, though.

You are not alone.

Most men feel this way and there is nothing wrong with that. The only problem is if you allow yourself to feel this way forever and do nothing at all to change your situation or your success with women. Being able to avoid many of the common pitfalls that most men seem to make is an easy way to make yourself more successful with women.

Here are a few things that you should NEVER do to attract a woman:

1. Never become the kind of guy that becomes a doormat for a woman. A lot of men will do this, especially when they are not very successful with women. Becoming a doormat and allowing her to walk all over you is the quickest way to lose a woman’s attraction for you. You have to realize that attraction occurs for many reasons, but being a pushover is NOT one of them.

2. Never try to use pick up lines or gimmicky routines to attract a woman. These gimmicks, routines, and pick up lines are all things that instantly let a woman know that you are just trying to score with her. And this usually will turn her off very quickly. Remember, this article is about attracting women and not girls. You have to come across as genuine and have real charm and charisma with a woman.

3. Never give up your personal life. I can’t tell you how many guys I know that have made their world revolve around a woman only to be rejected by her in the end. You should still maintain your social life and your hobbies, as this will make you seem more attractive to a woman. Women do make judgments based on your perceived social value. And if you have no social life other than with her, you will lose all of that and her interest in you as well.

These are just three very common mistakes that men make when it comes to dating women. You have to understand what attracts a woman and do those things. You also have to know what does not work to attract a woman and make sure that you NEVER make those mistakes.