Tips For Attracting Women

Flirting With Women – Never Make These Mistakes

admin — Mon, 08 Feb 2010 07:31:15 +0000

Flirting with a woman is one of those things that is a common struggle for most men. You might feel awkward or even “lost” when it comes to flirting with a woman. However, if you want to be a success with women, then you have to know how to flirt with her. Most guys are not exactly the best when it comes to flirting. This is what will separate YOU from the rest of the pack that approaches a girl, especially if you are in a bar or a club.

Here are some things that you should NEVER do when flirting with a woman:

1. Let your body language show your nerves. A lot of men will look down at the ground or put their hands in their pockets. They end up using submissive body language around women and this is NOT going to make HER feel attracted to YOU. You have to be able to use confident and sexual body language to attract a woman.

2. Use pick up lines. This is the kind of, I don’t know what to do approach. Using a pick up line will make you seem like one of those desperate college kids that is trying way too hard to get laid. You don’t want to give off this vibe. Most women will reject you just because you tried to use a pick up line on her.

3. Try to “hypnotize” her. This is one of those 1970’s leftovers that some guys today still swear is the secret key to attracting women. For the most part, this as useful as trying to use a played out line. For one, hypnosis only works if she wants to be hypnotized AND if you can get her in a quiet environment. In a public place, this is usually not an option.

These are just some of the many mistakes that men make when flirting with a woman. And you should NEVER make these mistakes if you want to taste REAL success with women.

Creating Good Vibes on a First Date

admin — Mon, 08 Feb 2010 02:11:34 +0000

Well, after boatloads of costly trial and error, I have concluded that it might be time to put the classic “Lance Romance” style first date out to pasture for good. You know what I’m talking about here?… the kind of deal where you break out the old American Express card and spring for the best candlelight dinner at some upscale bistro with the most expensive menu around?These formal dates invariably tended to find some way of turning into exploding cigars on me… and I’ve got the scorch marks all over my bank account to prove it!The ability to impress women with this sort of old fashioned, dating-by-the-numbers junk has been steadily losing its power over the generations anyway as females become more and more empowered and modernized. Women are beginning to expect a bit more creativity from men as regards dating — and I think that those who can deliver the psychological goods possess a definitive edge nowadays.So what’s the alternative to dinner and a movie?…Well, I say you can avoid all those expensive dangers AND throw her that slick creative curveball by sticking to ACTION-themed first dates. I’m talking about activities like skiing or dancing, or even… bowling. Bowling? Trust me, unless she’s a high-class gold-digging snob, you have a better chance of connecting with a chick on a stupid bowling date than by sitting across from her in a dim restaurant, slowly getting drunk and spilling out your sad and lonely guts to her. Guys get themselves into big trouble by revealing WAY too much about themselves way too soon in these types of “I need a girl to understand me” blab sessions, and they end up blowing all their male mystery to shreds. And with it, their game… and often, their chance at date #2 as well.Premature romantic dates carry with them the possibility of devolving into ugly spitting contests as much as they do a roll in the sack, and usually due to some minor issue that should’ve never come up in the first place. Remember, this early on in the mutual “feeling out” process she might be searching for anything bad to justify pulling the ripcord on you — and like some punk breaking under a good waterboarding you will surely crack after a few hours of her relentless digging and questioning. I’ve done it myself, and it ain’t fun.Action dates on the other hand, generally produce less of an opportunity for these long, potentially deadly conversations. The talk tends to center around the activity itself and less about troubled feelings or recently ended relationships and ex’s. Remember, Action Equals Passion because physical movement gets both the adrenaline and a woman’s emotions pumping in a similar fashion to sexual arousal — and on some level of her consciousness things can become confused to YOUR advantage!As long as you keep the flirting going steady throughout the date, this playful teasing should continue to establish your romantic interest in her despite the non-romantic activity that you’re likely engaged in. At the very least it creates warm vibes which are the basis of connection and the deepening of the romantic trance. For a man, successfully seducing women is all about the hidden messages transmitted in his behavior. Sure, you have to dress halfway decent and with some style, stay reasonably well-groomed and la-dee-da… but the make-or-break factor will always be your powerful attitude that she has to be able to read between the lines.So in that spirit, let’s take a look at a few ways in which you can create some positive energy on a first date vs. a few anti-matter negative goof-ups that can quickly pull things down into the “gutter of grief” if you’re not careful…POSITIVE –Keeping Your Male Attentions Solidly Focused on Her… This is an essential seduction skill: learning how to tune out the surrounding world and focus-in on any woman that you’re out with — as if the two of you were the only souls left in the universe. This relentless ego feed can be flattering to a woman in an almost breathtaking way. (Remember that… Focus is Flattering!) Of course, I must remind you to keep a steady hand on the wheel and avoid smothering her with a lot of ridiculous, subservient fawning. As always, balance is critical here.Any and all early conversations with a woman should be about creating SPARKS between the two of you — not about trading boring name, rank and serial number-type information. Tease and flirt gently but relentlessly in order to convey your romantic interest — never allow her to see you as that well-meaning but UNsexy guy. This is a killer stereotype to get hung on yourself. Remember that a socially timid man is almost always viewed as little more than a potential friend by women — never as a possible lover.NEGATIVE –”Grading” Her Personality or Appearance… Never get yourself trapped into any sort of stupid discussion where it suddenly seems like an interesting idea to ponder what her “upside” or “downside” might likely be in the relationship that you’re already expecting to happen… “I can see that you’re a bit stubborn, which is a downside to becoming involved with you… but you also seem to have a great natural curiosity, which I find to be a real big plus!”Well now isn’t that special.This is pure condescension no matter how you word it. You have just assumed the role of teacher handing out the “grades”, and I guess she can only be the pupil in this scenario, right? Imagine if some dude you just met graded something about your character after only having known you for a few minutes… you’d certainly want to punch his lights out. Well, your date may not punch you in the face, but she’s likely to go stone cold on you for the rest of the evening. Having fun yet? Addressing her as “young lady” just because there’s an age gap between the two of you is another mudhole. Think about it — are you trying to become her daddy… or her Man?Women generally refuse to submit to men in the guise of playful idiots like they did in the old days. So always try to remain on a psychologically equal level with her and avoid acting like some nit-picky “judge”. She’s not your girl yet… you throwback to the 5th century!POSITIVE –Using Lots of Clever Humor to Keep Her Giggling… When it comes to women, effective humor is all about your CLEVER commentary on the absurdities that surround us — not about the repeating of dumb Hustler jokes or doing lame celebrity impressions. That’s why they call it a SENSE of humor — you need to base your wit on a deeper sense of what’s going on around you… which often lies just beneath the obvious. So dig it out and make her laugh! Laughter is a tried-and-true way of creating unbearable lightness around women… which can be translated into heavier romantic feelings later on.NEGATIVE –Referring to Her in the Third Person… Instead of simply saying “What do you think of the shrimp scampi, Marsha?” you re-phrase it: “So, does Marsha like the shrimp scampi?”. This is how an adult talks to an adolescent in order to establish an impression of superiority over him or her. This kind of verbal stinkbomb drops an instant barrier between you and the woman by suggesting that the two of you are not on the same social / intellectual level, and that you consider her to be the inferior party. Only a woman with a case of very low self-esteem would let something like this slide by without being upset, and who needs to be messing around with losers like that?The bottom line is this: if you take the time to bond with a woman FIRST by using the power of action before self-revelation, all your subsequent interactions with her have a better chance of turning delightful instead of deadly. Remember that my ideas are always designed to make dating and seduction as fun and interesting as possible in order to keep you motivated and participating in the oftentimes grinding, discouraging, “weeding-out” process.That’s because PERSISTENCE is how you will eventually develop all those mad social skills that you’re searching for!Mike Pilinski overcame an incredible case of rejection phobia by learning how to mimic certain key behaviors that women find attractive in high status males, the resulting success now forming the basis for the methods that he teaches. Visit Mike’s website at http://0845.com/jxV to see his highly acclaimed e-books “Without Embarrassment” and “She’s Yours For The Taking: A Man’s Guide to the Seduction and Enchantment of Women”http://0845.com/jxVI thank you for taking the time to read this short report and I sincerely hope you take actionand make your life happier and wealthier for the better.JanuszJanulis© 2003-2009 World Marketing Media, Inc.

Are You Afraid to Approach Women?

admin — Sun, 07 Feb 2010 14:25:54 +0000

I have a buddy who will under no circumstances approach a woman he doesn’t know. It doesn’t matter if she’s making direct eye contact and sending him a “come seduce me” smile. He’s absolutely scared to death of making cold approaches. If you share his philosophy of fear, then you’re missing out on a lot of opportunities. It’s your job as a male to approach women and to show interest first.

Think for a moment about how you feel if a perfect stranger compliments you. Have you ever had a woman smile and approach you out of the blue? Ever had a carload of girls drive by when you’re jogging and scream at you approvingly? It makes you feel great doesn’t it? It doesn’t even matter if she’s hot or not. If a woman shows interest in you, then you feel great inside.

That’s exactly how women feel. It doesn’t matter if they’re not attracted to you. It doesn’t matter if you say something stupid. If you approach a woman she’ll be genuinely flattered by the attention you’re giving her.

Of course if you approach them in a threatening or creepy manner, they’re not going to appreciate meeting you. On the other hand, if you go up to them in a good natured way and say something halfway pleasant, they’ll love it.

Why do you think women spend hours doing their hair and nails? Why do you think the girl at the mall is wearing a miniskirt that shows off her shapely legs? They do that stuff for you! Women WANT men to appreciate their beauty. They crave the attention. Your attention affirms their sexuality.

So what have you got to lose? You want to meet hot women. Hot women want to be admired. What’s the problem here?

So what if you approach a group of girls and say something stupid? They might laugh at you? WHO CARES?! Being laughed at never killed anyone and it helps you to grow thicker skin. The worst thing that can happen is that you won’t get their phone number, which you never had in the first place. So how is being rejected by a total stranger a bad thing?

They don’t know you so they’re not rejecting who you are inside. They don’t know what qualities you possess, or the many skills you have. They don’t truly know who you are so their rejection means nothing.

Granted, at first it can be hard to gather the courage to blindly walk up to hot women. You may stutter, say something stupid, or words may not come out at all. Always keep in mind what the worst thing that can happen is if you fail. NOTHING!

Successfully approaching hot women is a numbers game. At first you’ll experience a disproportionate number of rejections. But as you gain confidence you’ll be rejected less and less often and your successes will increase dramatically. Eventually you’ll simply stop caring and the nervousness will go away.

Never be afraid to approach hot women! For more advice on how to approach women check out our dating guide for men at Zewb.com.

Dating mistakes that you are probably making with woman

admin — Sun, 07 Feb 2010 01:53:34 +0000

Attracting women is easier said than done. Advice from so-called seduction gurus has men everywhere utilizing techniques that get them nowhere. A lot of these moves are nothing short of dating mistakes.I think comedian Chris Rock put it best when he said that a woman knows if she’s gonna sleep with you within the first five minutes of meeting you. If you’re frustrated at the thought of this, don’t be.The bad news is that you could be making mistakes in how you interact with women. The good news is that you can fix these mistakes. If you want to seduce the opposite sex, you must eliminate everything that’s holding you back.The following are four of the most common dating mistakes made by men. Nip these in the bud, and your love life will change dramatically:LyingWhile a white lie here and there is harmless, repetitive lying will only damage your credibility. There’s a universal law that states “what goes around, comes around,” and lying certainly qualifies. People lie to avoid the discomfort that goes along with being honest. However, nothing is worse than getting caught in a lie, so be truthful at all times.The biggest instance of lying to women involves dating more than one girl. Rather than juggle partners, let each girl know that she’s one of many in your life. If she’s okay with sharing you, great; if not, at least you’ll avoid an outburst upon being discovered.Bad CharacterIn life and love, you’re only as good as your word. A man who respects himself and others is of high character…and very appealing to women.Don’t say one thing, and do something else. If you make a promise, keep it. Be confident in all that you do, but consider the feelings of others. Women find strong character irresistible!Low ConfidenceThere’s nothing sexier than a man who’s confident. Don’t seek the approval of others; this will only show your weak side. If you think highly of yourself, women will too.Some guys go overboard when it comes to confidence, opting instead to act like jerks. True confidence is solid in and of itself. A man who possesses it does not feel the need to boast. He lets his accomplishments speak for themselves.Playing ChickenIt’s not uncommon nowadays for men to sit idle, failing to approach women. They wait for women to make the first move, only to be disappointed. If you want to improve your game, you must understand one truth…Women rarely make the first move. As natural hunters, it’s the men who must do the chasing. Women expect it; they want it! It’s understandable that you might be nervous about talking to a girl for the first time, but you’ll never know unless you try. The more you practice, the more confident you’ll become.Final ThoughtsThe only thing worse than making a mistake is not learning from it. By recognizing your shortcomings when approaching women, you can focus on how to fix them. As soon as you do, you’ll be amazed at the difference in your seduction efforts.

How The Law Of Attraction Can Help Your Dating Success

admin — Sat, 06 Feb 2010 20:29:51 +0000

How The Law Of Attraction Can Help Your Dating SuccessBy Scott Patterson

According to popular literature, ‘The Law of Attraction’ can help you get ANYTHING you desire. This includes the woman of your dreams! From what many “experts” have said, if you simply wish for (and imagine) your ideal mate, she’ll magically appear.But can this really be done? Well that’s a pretty important question to ask.The other day I was reading the popular book “The Secret”. While I think this book contains a lot of useless information, there are a few principles listed which can help your dating life. What the author discussed was how The Law of Attraction can help achieve you want out of life, including meet your dream woman.Now if you’re not familiar with The Law of Attraction, then let me to provide the text book definition: Basically it stats that a person’s thoughts (conscious and unconscious), emotions, beliefs and actions are said to attract corresponding positive and negative experiences “through the resonance of their energetic vibration.” In other words it means that if you believe in attraction you can get what you think about. Ultimately your thoughts determine your outcome.Furthermore you can implement The Law of Attraction by following these 4 rules:1) Know what you desire and ask the universe for it. (The “universe” is mentioned broadly, stating that it can be anything from God to an unknown source of energy.)2) Focus your thoughts upon the thing desired with great feeling such as enthusiasm or gratitude.3) Feel and behave as if the object of your desire is on its way.4) Be open to receiving it.Now the question is how can you apply The Law of Attraction to your own dating life? Well it’s simple. All you have to change around the basic tenants and make them apply to your own dating life.So if you take the above 4 rules, your own personal Law of Dating Attraction would look like this:1) Formulate your idea of your perfect woman2) Think about this perfect woman and describe her perfectly3) Use visualization to see yourself meeting her, attracting her and ultimately seducing her4) Go to specific places and look for opportunities where you can meet herWhile I personally believe The Law of Attraction doesn’t work in the real world, it’s important to clearly identify your ideal woman. If you can create a perfect image of what she’s like and her personality, then you’ll discover it’s actually pretty easy to meet her.So if you’re having trouble finding your dream woman, then I recommend that you follow this simple exercise. You might be surprised and meet her!

Hot Seduction Techniques For Women – Make Him Want You Like Crazy Now!

admin — Sat, 06 Feb 2010 14:11:56 +0000

When it comes to seducing men, we women can get pretty anxious and paranoid if we’re doing the right thing or not. But then again, when it comes to seduction, there aren’t really rules or regulations — sometimes, you just have to follow your instincts and gut feeling to make it all happen. Now, there sure are a few seduction techniques for women you can definitely try out for yourself but I’m telling you now — they won’t mean a darn thing unless you have the mindset and attitude to make it all happen. So below are just a few hot seduction techniques for women you should try out — make him want you like crazy now!

· He’s not the only guy in the world. Show him you’re up for grabs. Like, he’s not the only guy who’s after you. Guys love a little challenge every once in a while especially if it involves the girl they want. So don’t be too needy — make him see that he’s not the only guy in the world. He’ll definitely get challenged and will pursue even more.

· You have a life. Live your life, follow your schedule, go out with your friends, give in to your passions — just because you’re attracted to this guy doesn’t mean you revolve your world around him. Men are into women who practice independence — they’d go after you even if it kills. Sort of.

· Loosen up and have fun. It’s one of the golden rule in hanging out–have fun and be yourself. Enjoy every minute of your life. You’re going out to forget your problems. Guys would love to be with a girl who can handle things on her own and knows how to enjoy.

· Tease him and play hard-to-get. Don’t be needy for his attention. Don’t be desperate to make him notice you. You’re on amazing girl and lucky him if you even give him the slightest grin. Come on, give high value to yourself. The more you do, the more irresistible you become.

· Always keep him wondering. Be a mystery. Tease his imagination. Don’t reveal everything about yourself all at once. Make sure you get him curious and intrigued about you as much as you can. That’s going to keep him glued to you for as long as you like.

Learning a few seduction techniques will absolutely get you a little edge from the rest of the female species. As long as you’re all positive and optimistic about it, you will have a greater chance to make him want you like crazy. Sometimes, it’s all in the mind, girl. Thinking about happy thoughts won’t hurt, you know.

The Pick Up Artist. Season 1

admin — Sat, 06 Feb 2010 02:09:28 +0000

Anyone who’s heard of Neil Strauss’s bestselling book, The Game, will be aware of the term PUA, which stands for Pick Up Artist, and a shadowy group of individuals who have formed a ‘pua community’ in order to work out the best methods to seducing women. These methods are about to become public for the first time, and will be able to be witnessed on VH1’s latest reality show, The Pick Up Artist.
Over the decades PUAs have been studying and breaking down stages of social interaction, and testing various methods in a relentless quest to seduce women. Neil Strauss himself went from a geeky, short, nervous and balding thirty year old to one of the best pick up artists in the world with the ability to seduce almost any woman he chooses, all thanks to the guidance from Erick Von Markovick, AKA Mystery PUA.
Many people doubted the validity of Strauss’s claims, with claims abounding that there was no way someone could learn to be good with women.
For anyone who doubts this theory there is a chance to witness first hand both the methods and the transformations that they bring about in VH1’s show, The Pick Up Artist. In this show eight individuals, who by their own admission have serious failings when it comes to socialising with women, will be given the chance to be trained by one of the best pick up artists in the world, Mystery PUA.
Author of The Mystery Method, and trainer of the now infamous Neil Strauss, Mystery and his two wingmen, Matador and J Dog will coach these eight individuals in their dress sense, body language, and social skills, teaching them the secrets that every man wants to learn, how to be ‘good with women’, and how to become The Pick Up Artist.
Each week the contestants will be set a ‘Field Test’ whereby they will be expected to go out into the real world of bars, clubs and coffee shops and interact with women, using techniques from The Mystery Method. Whoever performs the best will be given a pick up ‘prop’ to help them in the next challenge, such as an ear piece to get advice from Matador, one of Mystery’s wing men, whilst whoever performs the worst will have to pack their bags and go home.
Among the eight ’socially awkward’ contestants is a forty five year old virgin, a man who freezes and is unable to speak when talking to women, and six other men, all of whom are desperate to be coached in how to interact with women. Hidden cameras will follow their interactions with women and will document their transformation at every stage, until the final individual is crowned a ‘Master Pick Up Artist’, by Mystery PUA, as well as collecting prize money of $50,000.
Crucially this will give people a chance to witness some key things about pick up, and seduction. The eight individuals are not testosterone charged ego maniacs with a deep seated hatred of all things female, they are simple eight people who struggle to fit in and want to improve themselves. Despite all of them desperately wanting a girlfriend and a social life, they simply don’t have the confidence, and the thought of going out into the world and talking to people, especially women, terrifies them. The Pick Up Artist will be one of the first opportunities to demonstrate to people that being good with women is not necessarily something that you are born with, it is something that can be broken down, taught and developed, as demonstrated by Mystery Method instructors the world over. And it is taught to people who are decent, ordinary guys, who have always had to watch the world of relationships and female companionship pass them, leaving them only able to wonder why some guys get all the luck.
It will be a chance to see both Mystery PUA and his highly regarded formula, The Mystery Method in action. Those who once scoffed at the idea that ‘geeks’ and ’social misfits’ can never learn to get girls will no doubt be surprised.

Guys – How To Have Women Eating Out Of Your Hand – Literally!

admin — Fri, 05 Feb 2010 19:30:53 +0000

You know guys who have women literally eating out of their hand. Admit it – you’ve envied them but you’ve said to yourself. “What a jerk, can’t she see through his antics?”; “Why don’t women go for me like they go for him? Can’t women see I am a genuine guy who is serious about wanting a relationship?”

The reason women don’t go for you – a genuine guy- who is seriously looking for a relationship is that you are most probably too serious. Don’t get me wrong she is seriously looking for a relationship but it has to be fun to start off with. She wants a playmate too. She wants a man who can make her laugh.

Getting married, keeping house and having children is serious business and she wants it all, don’t be mistaken but she thinks all that is going to be fun. She sees the love stories on TV and in movies where the leading girl and guy are having fun. It all looks so enjoyable. So the first step to getting a woman is to make it enjoyable and fun.

You may not be the playful type. If you haven’t got a woman, it’s probably because you are a serious type; women don’t usually go for really serious guys. So lighten up. It’s OK to be serious at work, serious about playing chess or football but if you are serious about wanting a woman you must change your strategy, or you won’t get one.

It’s not easy to change overnight. It takes practice. I’m going to show you how.

Rule No 1

You have to be out there and available to attract women. You won’t get a woman whilst you are sitting at your computer. You may be able to have an on-line woman but most of those don’t eventuate. They are Clayton’s dates. Be a real man and get yourself a real woman.

Set aside two nights a week for going out and looking for women. They are not going to come knocking on your door. Or make it easy for yourself; go to a reliable introduction agency. Do your research, check out a few websites. Pay a visit before you join up; ask questions, ask to see testimonials, ask to talk to a client who is using the service.

If you join an introduction agency you won’t have to find women you will get a regular supply but you will have to allow time at least twice a week to meet women.

Rule No 2

Don’t expect to end up with the first woman you meet. Expect to have several ‘practice runs’ before you land the woman of your dreams.

If you expect the first woman you take out to be Ms Right you will get too serious too soon and blow it. Expect to burn a few along the way, and then you won’t be so disappointed.

Be careful what you think about before your speak to her, meet her for coffee or take her out on a date. If you keep imagining she will be Ms Right it will make you so nervous I guarantee you will blow it. Imagine each woman you meet is just going to be a friend and a practice run.

DON’T EXPECT MUCH. If you learn nothing else this is the key to having women eat out of your hand. Expect little. When you expect little you are more likely to relax, it is easier to tease and be cool if this woman is only a practice run.

Rule No.3

Flirt, be playful and make her laugh. “How on earth am I going to be playful and flirt?” you ask. You have never been a flirt but you have been a tease when you were younger. All guys know how to tease. Women love to be teased they love the attention. You’ve teased your siblings or you’ve teased your dog so you know how to do it.

Unless you are a very experienced joke teller and you know you tell them well, forget that idea. You can make her laugh by telling her the funny things that happened at work. You can tell her stories against yourself. Women really appreciate men who can laugh at themselves – but not all the time.

One of the easiest ways to make her laugh is to tease her. She loves it because you are giving her attention and WOMEN LOVE ATTENTION. If you have the opportunity – practice teasing your mother & sisters or the older women at work. It takes practice so you have to start somewhere.

You say, “I don’t want to get caught flirting with the older women at work”. No don’t flirt with them, just tease. The type of flirting you do with a NEW WOMAN is as tame as you would be with the older women at work. Practise on the tea lady or the woman behind the cafeteria counter.

No matter what all the men’s books on “How to be a Ladies Man” state, don’t dare try outrageously flirting by touching, stealing a kiss or wrestling with her, or any other direct method . You cannot afford to even dare try these methods with a new woman. It won’t win you brownie points; it is more likely that she will run for cover.

Because you are new at this make your flirting as innocent as you would tease the older women at work. If you make friends with her, then you can flirt outrageously but not before. Even then you might lose a good friend if you overstep the mark. Now that I’ve warned you about seriously flirting, remember you must flirt, but gently.

No matter how gorgeous she is you can’t afford to take her seriously. You must tease and be playful to get her attention. If you haven’t done your homework – PRACTISED BEFOREHAND- expect that your first few attempts may fail.

Rule No. 4

Women are turned on by attention. Women love you to remember what they have told you. Women love reliable men. Men who ring when they say they will. Did you know MEN SEE – WOMEN FEEL? It’s how you make her feel that counts. If she is not at all interested in you but you are fun to be with, remember what you told her yesterday and ring her when you say you will, SHE WILL CHANGE HER MIND.

If you don’t think you can flirt or charm, you can listen. Shyness is usually caused by too much focus on one’s self. If you are shy, you must make an effort to put an imaginary frame around her face and listen carefully to everything she says. Don’t peer to closely into her eyes.

Look at her nose and smile with your eyes while you are listening. Acknowledge what she is saying. You know – say things like “no kidding”, “really”. A really cool guy will say, “How did you feel about that?” or “That wouldn’t have made you too happy”, or “I’ll bet you were pleased about that”. Cool comments when used at the right time.

All women love a man who is a good listener. Harry was a shy country boy but he wasn’t too shy. Some guys’ shyness causes them to be so self absorbed that they don’t listen. Harry listened to women.

He was often seen sitting out dances listening to women, women of all ages. He won their hearts by just listening. He didn’t only listen to the pretty ones he listened to all of them. He eventually won the heart of a very pretty girl who loved the attention of a man who listened.

Rule No 5

SHOW OFF. Show her your strengths. If you are reading this article, I take it you are not a great lover . . . YET . . . so don’t try getting her into bed on the first night. Leave that until she is your best friend. It is much easier to seduce your best friend than it is to seduce a woman you hardly know. And you don’t want to be accused of “date rape”.

By strengths I don’t mean sexual pursuits but normal strengths. Everyone is good at something or knowledgeable about something. Whether it’s football, golf, art or music. Try to interest her in stuff that you are good at.

Everyone shines when they are good at something or knowledgeable. Knowledge is power, it’s your strength. When she sees you at your best and most knowledgeable she won’t be able to resist you.Sue came to visit me at Entre Nous to report in about Graham she had recently met. Here’s her story:

I wasn’t at all interested in Graham but he invited me to go Kayaking. I had never been kayaking and really wanted to go but not with him. Anyway I said yes. The kayaking won. He came to pick me up. He had all the gear, was really well organised, knew what he was doing and we had such a good time. By the end of the afternoon I really liked him. We have been an item ever since.

If you take her to the football, keep up a running commentary. If you go to an art gallery, read up about the art beforehand. If it’s a play, know all the actors and directors off by heart beforehand. This is subtle showing off and will have her eating out of your hand, if you are well mannered and considerate, take an interest in her and listen to her and tease her and make the outing fun. If you are going to listen to music, make sure you know all about that music beforehand, DO YOUR HOMEWORK.

Rule No. 6

Make her feel appreciated

Of course you appreciate her or you wouldn’t be interested. It goes without saying! Doesn’t it? NO! Women have to be told over and over that you appreciate them every time you meet them. However you can’t say ‘good woman’ like you say ‘good dog’ to Rover. You must be much more subtle than that.

Notice things:” Is that a new outfit? It looks great. You hair’s different today, it really suits you.

Remember things she has said: You said your mother isn’t well yesterday, is she OK now? Your boss was giving you a hard time, has the situation improved? You said you were concerned about. ……… has there been any improvement?” When you are enquiring about personal things she has told you ask in a confidential manner when you are alone.

Express how you feel about her: She should know how you feel about her but women need to be told every time you meet or talk on the phone. Don’t tell her she turns you on if you are still at the ‘just friends’ stage, it will scare her off. Here are some examples but you know what you like about her, tell her so:

“You have such a cute smile. I like they way you walk. I love the way you burst into laughter so easily. I love to hear you chatting on so easily. I love the way you twist your hair around your finger. I am impressed by your loyalty to your friends. I am impressed by your care for your family.”

If you notice her appearance, remember things she has told you, and express how you feel about her, you will have her eating out of your hand in no time.

Rule No 7

Ooze confidence socially

There is only one way you can do this and that is to practise being sociable with everyone you meet and act as though you are confident. If you act confidently, you will be surprised how your confidence will increase. NEVER BE SELECTIVE WHEN PRACTISING. You need to practise on everyone.

Have an extra little chat with people you would normally just say hello to. For people you would not normally speak to: say “hello”; in lifts, passing in corridors, in shops, wherever you are keep speaking to people. It may not be your style however it’s going to give you confidence socially and you need this confidence if you are going to impress her.

Confidence is power and women are impressed by powerful men. It’s more important than good looks, height or money.

Now don’t say: “this is too hard and it’s not me”. If you keep doing the same old things you will end up with the same old result. You are reading this because you want women to eat out of your hand – so keep reading.

If you start saying “hello” to people in corridors without stopping, you will notice that people will make an effort to speak to you next time you pass. Try to become popular. Popular people speak to EVERYONE, they are not choosey.

Popular people offer assistance when they can. Popular people listen to what others have to say and remember things that have been said so that they can follow up when appropriate.

Popular men speak to all women not just the attractive, single women. Have you noticed how the playboy chats up all women – from 8 – 80 years, all sizes and shapes? He doesn’t differentiate. By the time he gets to a stunning woman he is so practised he can charm her sox off on automatic pilot.

Become more sociable with your friends. Go out more. Don’t let your woman think you are a recluse. It would be no fun for her if you have no fun. Make an effort. It’s all part of practising.

Three very important tips to developing your social confidence are:1 Laugh at others’ jokes, whether they are funny or not. Be quick to laugh. Get into the habit of laughing more.2 Accept compliments with thanks and try to repay the compliment at the time. Always, always, always say something like: “Thanks, I was just admiring your …………..”3 Pay compliments when you think them. Don’t worry about whether your mates will get a swollen head, tell them when you think they are doing something great or look good. This will get you into the habit of being able to comfortably compliment a woman without feeling awkward.

You have to start somewhere so start with your friends and family. Practise, practise, practise. You can pretend to be confident but when you are tired or relaxed your inner self will let you down. You need to be used to this new confidence routine that’s why it’s important to practise.

The nice genuine guys who are a little on the shy side tell me that at nightclubs the used car salesmen get all the good looking women. Yet girls tell me that the only guys they ever meet at nightclubs are used car salesmen. The used car salesmen have developed confidence through their job.

However most girls are inclined to think of the used car salesman as superficial because he is not at all subtle and comes on too strong too soon.

Most men shy away from really beautiful women. They don’t have the confidence to approach them. We find at Entre Nous dating agency that we seem to get more than our share of the stunningly beautiful women because men are afraid to approach them.

At an Entre Nous Spring Madness Ball, the most beautiful woman in the room with a Barbie doll figure complained that no one asked her to dance.

You can have a very beautiful woman, all you have to do is have the confidence and know that you most probably won’t have much competition.

Rule No 8

Get Away with Touching

You will need to be very careful about touching a new woman but with practise you can get away with heaps. It’s all to do with confidence. The secret is not to overdo it. Try touching all women so that you develop confidence within yourself.

When you are ushering a woman ahead of you through doorways etc. Touch her shoulder ever so lightly. When you open a car door, offer your hand to help her out of the car – it’s up to her to let go, don’t you let go.

At the water cooler touch her hand when you pass her a drink or in bars touch her hand as you give her a drink. Take her arm or touch her elbow, when you cross the road. Now out of date was the lighting of a cigarette, you touched her hand ever so slightly as you protected the flame from the wind.

When you tease a woman you can take something of hers and force her to touch you to get it back, but only if you have learned to be quick to laugh. When you develop confidence you can ask for a kiss in return. If you think she likes you, you can play truth or dare whilst walking or travelling.

Dare her to wear your tie; kiss your hand, hold your hand all the way up the street. If she does, make sure you stroke it ever so lightly, so gently that she couldn’t complain.

Touching a woman inappropriately will send her off in the opposite direct so fast you will not know what’s hit you – unless she hits you. Whereas if you are really gentle and subtle, you will be amazed at how often you can touch her.

Rule No 9

Accepting Rejection

No one likes rejection. You can avoid it by not doing anything or you can be subtle in the way you approach women. The Playboy has a very tough skin, he can be as cheeky as he likes and sometimes he gets away with it and other times he doesn’t – he gets rejected. He can take it; it’s all part of the game.

I have given you enough suggestions to develop your confidence, however if you touch women inappropriately or try to be too familiar too soon you will certainly be rejected. If you don’t want to have your new self confidence shattered, be subtle.

Do you want the type of woman who accepts an overly familiar approach? No, of course not, because she would be too easy with every guy.

You will be rejected for sure if you keep trying to attract women but as you develop confidence and become astute at knowing how to avoid rejection, your rejections will become fewer and fewer. It is better to be less daring and have fewer rejections.

Don’t try to emulate the superficial used car salesmen or the experienced playboy, develop your own style which is sensitive, genuine and caring of women.

Pickup vs social circle game: which way is for you?

admin — Fri, 05 Feb 2010 19:30:49 +0000

Professional seducers swear that waiting to meet women in social circles is a waist of time. More simple men think that picking up women is too challenging ‘or not for them’. Really which approach yields the best results without violating each persons behavior ??

This is our modern time questions.

Girls love to meet their prince charming casually, they dream of meeting you accidentally and by chance. That usually includes meeting you at a somewhat more private party (a birthday or a wedding, but not a nightclub), being introduced to you through a mutual friend, having common interests (hobbies, sports etc) and meeting you through events organized for people practicing these interests; school, work, hobbies, friends, and relatives being the common denominators here.

That is also why trying to pick up a girl in the street or on the commuter is so much harder to do than just “meeting her casually” – it is completely different from what she has been dreaming of and in addition to having to make her like you the way you present yourself, you’ll have to compensate for not being able to have the silent recommendation of having mutual friends or hobbies plus dismiss any of her doubts of you “doing this (picking up girls) all the time”, a thought which might weigh against you even if she actually likes you and your approach.

But whether you want to make the girl like you having met her casually or doing a more direct pick-up, you’ll be using the same techniques nevertheless. Opting for a casual meeting just simplifies your task of getting her to like you and has a higher probability of her coming to expect a long time relationship once things get serious (whether you like or want that to happen is already a different subject), whereas pick-ups are tougher to pull off successfully, but they also broaden your choice of girls far beyond those that you happen to meet “casually” plus each failure and succcess will build your experience and confidence respectively far more than casual meetings could ever do. In short, casual meetings are safe, pick-ups more rewarding, and the choice is yours, but a healthy mixture of both is probably the best way to go.

For some professional seducers, seduction in a social circle environment seems extremely easy unless they use risky tactics. In order however to arrive to a level to become a professional seducer you must read and undertand the very big principles of that art. A good place to start is here.

Tips to Attract Women With Your Attitude

admin — Tue, 26 Jan 2010 13:59:35 +0000

If there is a magic pill that you can pop attractive for women, will you take it?

Chances are, most men will answer a yes. But in reality, there is no pill. Yet the human species, since the dawn of civilization, is busy making himself the subject of interest and attention of the woman. Even now, in this era of speed dating sites and meeting the target has not changed.

So why is it that some people seem to be on the road all the time, while others seem to be unhappy, no matter what they do? Some say that the aesthetic appearance has to be better. But this is not entirely true.

While it may be so that how a guy looks like matters in order to catch a woman’s attention, that alone will not make him totally attractive. What makes the guy go from “Hi there. You alone?” to “Good morning, doll.” is his attitude.

Attitude, by definition, are the perspectives and mindsets towards a particular situation. In the dating scenario, it would mean how you behave and think in terms of approaching a woman, chatting in a conversation with her and his salary a little more special than the other women in the room.

So what kind of attitude do you have? Many people think that they need to impress the women to attract them. By making an impression is important, you must ensure that this impression is really you. Otherwise, your approach to dating shows that you prefer false impressions to what you actually are, so you can get what you want. Not exactly what you want right?

On the contrary, develop the “I am myself” attitude. No pretence, nor the air – just who you really are. Little thing makes men attractive to women than for a man who is not honest about who and he really is. Of course do not be a pervert. Also, this is not to say that you should go and be the “I am myself” attitude and do not put any effort to dress in beautiful clothes, because you are more of shorts and sandals kind of guy.

Absolutely not. In fact, the “as is” the attitude should remain behind the scenes. The main idea is that you do not have to pretend species sensitive writer as more of a Monday night football type of guy. But at the same time you have an effort to make your best foot forward.

To do this, take the time to look your best. You don’t need to look like Hugh Jackman long lost twins, but do not look (and smell) like a slut. Take the time to choose clothes that are appropriate for you. Attention to personal hygiene, especially if you tend to sweat and you do not forget to check your breathe too. But more importantly, the work on this habit, instead of doing it once in a while. This will increase the level of attractiveness a lot.

Now that you’ve shaved and dressed, it is time to work. For example, the approach of someone, you say everything you need, to get her interest and friendly. You do not need to impress with things that are not real about you. Remember, you are who you are and not someone else.

If they respond, then good for you. If it does not seem to be interested, no matter how nice you are, it is still ok. In this case, you say that the two of you are not suitable and move on. At the very least, the woman you have just discussed that you knew when to stop. Surprisingly, at half meeting, they can give you a better chance, just because you have chosen for the first time you’ve had.

Now this is not a watertight plan that can help you score with the ladies. But it’s much better than pretending to be something that you do not. Develop a healthy attitude about yourself you will not only attractive to the right of women around you, but also for you personally, as you begin to see you in a better light. You can vist how attract women website to learn the most effective ways to attract a women and make them looking for you instead of the other way round.