Archive for January, 2010

If there is a magic pill that you can pop attractive for women, will you take it?

Chances are, most men will answer a yes. But in reality, there is no pill. Yet the human species, since the dawn of civilization, is busy making himself the subject of interest and attention of the woman. Even now, in this era of speed dating sites and meeting the target has not changed.

So why is it that some people seem to be on the road all the time, while others seem to be unhappy, no matter what they do? Some say that the aesthetic appearance has to be better. But this is not entirely true.

While it may be so that how a guy looks like matters in order to catch a woman’s attention, that alone will not make him totally attractive. What makes the guy go from “Hi there. You alone?” to “Good morning, doll.” is his attitude.

Attitude, by definition, are the perspectives and mindsets towards a particular situation. In the dating scenario, it would mean how you behave and think in terms of approaching a woman, chatting in a conversation with her and his salary a little more special than the other women in the room.

So what kind of attitude do you have? Many people think that they need to impress the women to attract them. By making an impression is important, you must ensure that this impression is really you. Otherwise, your approach to dating shows that you prefer false impressions to what you actually are, so you can get what you want. Not exactly what you want right?

On the contrary, develop the “I am myself” attitude. No pretence, nor the air – just who you really are. Little thing makes men attractive to women than for a man who is not honest about who and he really is. Of course do not be a pervert. Also, this is not to say that you should go and be the “I am myself” attitude and do not put any effort to dress in beautiful clothes, because you are more of shorts and sandals kind of guy.

Absolutely not. In fact, the “as is” the attitude should remain behind the scenes. The main idea is that you do not have to pretend species sensitive writer as more of a Monday night football type of guy. But at the same time you have an effort to make your best foot forward.

To do this, take the time to look your best. You don’t need to look like Hugh Jackman long lost twins, but do not look (and smell) like a slut. Take the time to choose clothes that are appropriate for you. Attention to personal hygiene, especially if you tend to sweat and you do not forget to check your breathe too. But more importantly, the work on this habit, instead of doing it once in a while. This will increase the level of attractiveness a lot.

Now that you’ve shaved and dressed, it is time to work. For example, the approach of someone, you say everything you need, to get her interest and friendly. You do not need to impress with things that are not real about you. Remember, you are who you are and not someone else.

If they respond, then good for you. If it does not seem to be interested, no matter how nice you are, it is still ok. In this case, you say that the two of you are not suitable and move on. At the very least, the woman you have just discussed that you knew when to stop. Surprisingly, at half meeting, they can give you a better chance, just because you have chosen for the first time you’ve had.

Now this is not a watertight plan that can help you score with the ladies. But it’s much better than pretending to be something that you do not. Develop a healthy attitude about yourself you will not only attractive to the right of women around you, but also for you personally, as you begin to see you in a better light. You can vist how attract women website to learn the most effective ways to attract a women and make them looking for you instead of the other way round.

It is unbelievable how many men there are who are awe-struck when it comes to approaching and talking to women. But what I find really appalling is the fact that so many of them are laboring under some unfounded illusions about women that prevent them from making any move whatsoever. Let’s examine some of these misconceptions.
Many men believe that, to be attractive, they have to conform to what women say and want. That’s one sure way to intimidate yourself. Women usually say they prefer men who are tall, dark, handsome, intelligent, rich, athletically built. The truth is, women don’t really know what they want until they see it. They only think this is what they want probably because this is what they’ve seen in their favorite movies or on TV. Most women will be charmed off their feet by men who are smart, charming, funny and good conversationalists.
Another wrong belief is that, to attract women, you have to like what they like and are interested in the things they enjoy. Some men actually pretend to like things that women like, hoping they can create some interest. Nothing could be further from the truth. Whether or not men share the same interests with women is secondary in the realm of attraction and romance. In fact, many women are attracted to men who are their virtual opposites in terms of personality and interests. This is important to point out because some men actually go out of their way to pretend to like the things that the woman they are attracted to likes, which is pathetic and unnecessary.
Even men who are fairly capable of attracting women still have trouble when it comes to sex, mainly because of the misguided belief that women will only sleep with them after they have gone through great and elaborate lengths of courting them. The truth is women, being human beings just like men, have the same needs and desires that we do. And that includes sex. They enjoy sex just like we do. A little experience in this area will convince them that this is true. Usually, women hold off from sleeping with men in order to avoid appearing easy or slutty. It is not because they don’t want to.
A final misconception among men is that if they aren’t any good at dealing with women, they aren’t going to get any better. This is not true. Men usually believe this after years of fear rejection. The fact is that they are unsuccessful with women because they have approached women on the basis of misconceptions. Sometimes they have failed because they lack confidence and women can smell this like sharks smelling blood. But once these men learn to overcome their basic misconceptions, they can approach women with confidence and their fortunes will surely improve.

What makes someone really really good with women is having such strong inner game and confidence that they are able to attract women and have them initiate conversations rather than having to rely on canned openers and negs to get the interest of a set. A master pickup artist will be exuding confidence in everything he does, which will make him extremely attractive. Where as a PUA who is just starting out on his journey will be making a conscientious effort to open as many sets as possible and will probably not be able to naturally exude these attractive qualities.   Firstly, try peacocking, which is the art of wearing outrageous and colourful clothing. This will make you stand out from everyone else, and demonstrate that you have the confidence to wear something outrageous, and is something that a pickup artist will often do to increase their attractiveness.  A lot of PUAs will spend more and more time with other PUAs swapping tactics and openers, which will mean that they neglect an important aspect of their social life. Stop assessing a girl for her immediate sexual value to you, and remember the importance of their social value. A guy with a lot of girls in his social circle will be more comfortable talking to girls, and will have higher value if he walks around with a number of women in his company.Think about who would be better placed to attract women: a short ugly guy who strolls in wearing a flowing fur coat with five beautiful women on his arm, who are hanging on his every word, or a 6ft guy standing on his own with a beer looking moody? What most men don’t know, but what every pickup artist will know, is that women don’t put that much emphasis on looks when deciding what they find attractive. They are more attracted to status, high value, and of course, confidence. Of course, telling someone to be confident is like telling some to be rich, or be good looking, however confidence can be learned and ultimately comes from being comfortable. Whether it’s being comfortable in the environment you’re in, comfortable in your own skin, and comfortable talking to beautiful women, confidence is a key feature of being able to attract women. If you feel that you lack confidence then don’t ignore the problem, tackle it head on! Take a tefl course, or sign yourself up for a stand up comedy open mike night, or do anything which will force you to speak in public, and will therefore improve your public speaking skills. If you are not comfortable going to bars, then start going more regularly until you are. If you are not confident opening sets of girls, then just force yourself to start approaching, as it’s the only way you’ll improve. There are plenty of courses and products that will tackle approach anxiety, and the best way is to get out there and start doing it, and if you do it enough you may even become a pickup artist.  Once you have approached a certain amount of sets you will begin to become more comfortable and confident doing it, and will exude a natural confidence and coolness in situations which once made you nervous and anxious. However this will only come about through practice and cannot be magically removed from your psyche. People don’t go from AFC to PUA overnight.If you really want to attract women and improve at it, try making some changes to what you are currently doing. Start making an effort to peacock, and wear more noticeable flamboyant things when you go out. Make more of an effort to include women in your social circle, and go out with them more. When approaching girls don’t just think about whether you can f-close them, think about what value they could add if you were to start going out with them. A good PUA will be able to incorporate all these things into his social circle naturally, which will give him the confidence and attractiveness that a lot of guys don’t have.

Many men agree that attracting women who are older (28+) is easier because women at that age tend to allow your personality to shine more so than younger women (18-27).
The argument usually centers around younger women being too ‘flighty’ and less interested in being serious for too long in an interaction.
Those suggestions are partly true.
Generally speaking and compared to older women, younger women don’t have as much experience with sexual courtships and the ins and outs of dating, love and relationships.
To a younger woman, being all giggly and energetic may be her best way of socializing, connecting with you and expressing her happiness with you in a situation.
If you can’t ‘vibe’ with her on that sort of level, then she might see you as ‘weird’ or ‘boring’.
Additionally, a younger woman might thoroughly enjoy watching movies where Hollywood stars demonstrate passionate and interesting sexual courtships, but will be clueless as to how to make it happen for herself in real-life.
This inexperience on the younger woman’s part might leave you thinking that she isn’t interested or doesn’t like you, or that attracting women of that age is too hard. However, it is more likely that you are incorrectly reading her signals, or lack thereof.
Generally speaking, an older woman will have had more experience with dating and be able to give you more obvious and effective signals of interest so attracting women of that age will seem easier.
An older woman might also express her happiness with you in a situation by using more ‘interested’ facial expressions, body language and tonality and involving herself in longer and more meaningful conversations with you.
Now, I’ve been using the words ‘generally speaking’ because, as you may have experienced, some younger women are very mature, sexually and socially.
One of my girlfriends from last year was 21 years old (I’m 29). She understood things about dating and sex that you’d expect from someone much, much older.
When we first met, our conversations and interactions, while flirty and fun, were also deep and mature.
If you aren’t attracting women between the age of 18-27 and then moving it towards the point of having a younger girlfriend, then you may simply be going about it in the wrong way.
Here’s an example…
I was coaching a client in Sydney a couple of weekends back. As we vibed with two younger women in a popular city bar, there was an old, black & white cartoon playing in the background.
The two younger women were very energetic and giggly, so I geared the conversation towards the cartoon, cartoons in general and the funny things that cartoon characters do, for about one or two minutes.
We all had a good laugh. We then we talked about some ‘normal stuff’ relating to the bar we were in, for a minute or two, and then went back to talking about some other ‘fun stuff.’
I lead the women through a conversation that had emotional variance, in a way that they could relate and contribute to. Afterwards, my client commented with amazement on how the two women just naturally took to me.
Here’s the thing though: Regardless of how skilled I am at meeting and attracting women, the interaction would not have gone so well if I had tried to interact with the two younger women by focusing on ‘normal, boring stuff’ and then expecting them to want to stay there and experience that sort of vibe.
They had a different energy level and way of interacting, so I adapted to the situation.
If you want to beging successfully attracting women of all ages, then you are going to need to learn how to be flexible with the various personality types you meet.
A quick disclaimer: I’m not saying that you should not be yourself, or that you should pretend to be interested in talking about cartoons.
Hell, one of my favourite subjects second to dating advice is transhumanism, but talking about the mind-blowing possibilities of science just doesn’t seem to enthrall 99% of women in bar environments!
…especially younger women. So, I adapt in order to be effective…and it works every time.
Note: Once you begin dating, you’ll be surprised at how interested women will be in who you are, what you know, what you like talking about and where you’re going with your life.
However, before you even get to that enjoyable place, you’re going to need to learn how to adapt and explore interactions and conversations based on the unique individuals you meet.
I can’t remember who said this, but I think it’s an awesome take on calibrating to the situation. I think it might have been Samuel L. Jackson on some TV show when they interviewed him.
Anyway, the ‘guy’ said: “The epitome of cool, is being able to walk into a room full of strangers and get along with everyone on their level, while still being yourself.”
Now get out there and start attracting women!

When it comes to attracting women believe it or not it really is quite simple.

Now, even though attracting women is simple it doesn’t mean that it is going to be easy; especially if it isn’t already easy for you to attract women at this time in your life.

Right now for many of you not attracting women comes real easy for you which means your current beliefs and habits when it comes to attracting women isn’t going getting you the results you want with women.

Unfortunately for you your current beliefs and habits when it comes to not attracting women are easier to follow and do than beginning to make the simple changes it takes in order to attract women.

In other words, you must leave your comfort zone and start doing the things that at first you might not be comfortable doing yet already know will help you attract women.

Then again there are those among you who will decide that staying in your comfort zone and not attracting women is much easier than simply making the changes you can, now attract women.

Hopefully you have decided to make it simple and start making the changes you must in order to attract women instead of taking the easy way out.

For those of you who have decided to make it simple and begin attracting women now, perhaps you are wondering what these simple steps are exactly?

Isn’t it amazing how when you have decided to make those simple changes you know you must you begin to notice that the resources you need are a simple click or email away.