Flirting with a woman is one of those things that is a common struggle for most men. You might feel awkward or even “lost” when it comes to flirting with a woman. However, if you want to be a success with women, then you have to know how to flirt with her. Most guys are not exactly the best when it comes to flirting. This is what will separate YOU from the rest of the pack that approaches a girl, especially if you are in a bar or a club.

Here are some things that you should NEVER do when flirting with a woman:

1. Let your body language show your nerves. A lot of men will look down at the ground or put their hands in their pockets. They end up using submissive body language around women and this is NOT going to make HER feel attracted to YOU. You have to be able to use confident and sexual body language to attract a woman.

2. Use pick up lines. This is the kind of, I don’t know what to do approach. Using a pick up line will make you seem like one of those desperate college kids that is trying way too hard to get laid. You don’t want to give off this vibe. Most women will reject you just because you tried to use a pick up line on her.

3. Try to “hypnotize” her. This is one of those 1970′s leftovers that some guys today still swear is the secret key to attracting women. For the most part, this as useful as trying to use a played out line. For one, hypnosis only works if she wants to be hypnotized AND if you can get her in a quiet environment. In a public place, this is usually not an option.

These are just some of the many mistakes that men make when flirting with a woman. And you should NEVER make these mistakes if you want to taste REAL success with women.

Well, after boatloads of costly trial and error, I have concluded that it might be time to put the classic “Lance Romance” style first date out to pasture for good. You know what I’m talking about here?… the kind of deal where you break out the old American Express card and spring for the best candlelight dinner at some upscale bistro with the most expensive menu around?These formal dates invariably tended to find some way of turning into exploding cigars on me… and I’ve got the scorch marks all over my bank account to prove it!The ability to impress women with this sort of old fashioned, dating-by-the-numbers junk has been steadily losing its power over the generations anyway as females become more and more empowered and modernized. Women are beginning to expect a bit more creativity from men as regards dating — and I think that those who can deliver the psychological goods possess a definitive edge nowadays.So what’s the alternative to dinner and a movie?…Well, I say you can avoid all those expensive dangers AND throw her that slick creative curveball by sticking to ACTION-themed first dates. I’m talking about activities like skiing or dancing, or even… bowling. Bowling? Trust me, unless she’s a high-class gold-digging snob, you have a better chance of connecting with a chick on a stupid bowling date than by sitting across from her in a dim restaurant, slowly getting drunk and spilling out your sad and lonely guts to her. Guys get themselves into big trouble by revealing WAY too much about themselves way too soon in these types of “I need a girl to understand me” blab sessions, and they end up blowing all their male mystery to shreds. And with it, their game… and often, their chance at date #2 as well.Premature romantic dates carry with them the possibility of devolving into ugly spitting contests as much as they do a roll in the sack, and usually due to some minor issue that should’ve never come up in the first place. Remember, this early on in the mutual “feeling out” process she might be searching for anything bad to justify pulling the ripcord on you — and like some punk breaking under a good waterboarding you will surely crack after a few hours of her relentless digging and questioning. I’ve done it myself, and it ain’t fun.Action dates on the other hand, generally produce less of an opportunity for these long, potentially deadly conversations. The talk tends to center around the activity itself and less about troubled feelings or recently ended relationships and ex’s. Remember, Action Equals Passion because physical movement gets both the adrenaline and a woman’s emotions pumping in a similar fashion to sexual arousal — and on some level of her consciousness things can become confused to YOUR advantage!As long as you keep the flirting going steady throughout the date, this playful teasing should continue to establish your romantic interest in her despite the non-romantic activity that you’re likely engaged in. At the very least it creates warm vibes which are the basis of connection and the deepening of the romantic trance. For a man, successfully seducing women is all about the hidden messages transmitted in his behavior. Sure, you have to dress halfway decent and with some style, stay reasonably well-groomed and la-dee-da… but the make-or-break factor will always be your powerful attitude that she has to be able to read between the lines.So in that spirit, let’s take a look at a few ways in which you can create some positive energy on a first date vs. a few anti-matter negative goof-ups that can quickly pull things down into the “gutter of grief” if you’re not careful…POSITIVE –Keeping Your Male Attentions Solidly Focused on Her… This is an essential seduction skill: learning how to tune out the surrounding world and focus-in on any woman that you’re out with — as if the two of you were the only souls left in the universe. This relentless ego feed can be flattering to a woman in an almost breathtaking way. (Remember that… Focus is Flattering!) Of course, I must remind you to keep a steady hand on the wheel and avoid smothering her with a lot of ridiculous, subservient fawning. As always, balance is critical here.Any and all early conversations with a woman should be about creating SPARKS between the two of you — not about trading boring name, rank and serial number-type information. Tease and flirt gently but relentlessly in order to convey your romantic interest — never allow her to see you as that well-meaning but UNsexy guy. This is a killer stereotype to get hung on yourself. Remember that a socially timid man is almost always viewed as little more than a potential friend by women — never as a possible lover.NEGATIVE –”Grading” Her Personality or Appearance… Never get yourself trapped into any sort of stupid discussion where it suddenly seems like an interesting idea to ponder what her “upside” or “downside” might likely be in the relationship that you’re already expecting to happen… “I can see that you’re a bit stubborn, which is a downside to becoming involved with you… but you also seem to have a great natural curiosity, which I find to be a real big plus!”Well now isn’t that special.This is pure condescension no matter how you word it. You have just assumed the role of teacher handing out the “grades”, and I guess she can only be the pupil in this scenario, right? Imagine if some dude you just met graded something about your character after only having known you for a few minutes… you’d certainly want to punch his lights out. Well, your date may not punch you in the face, but she’s likely to go stone cold on you for the rest of the evening. Having fun yet? Addressing her as “young lady” just because there’s an age gap between the two of you is another mudhole. Think about it — are you trying to become her daddy… or her Man?Women generally refuse to submit to men in the guise of playful idiots like they did in the old days. So always try to remain on a psychologically equal level with her and avoid acting like some nit-picky “judge”. She’s not your girl yet… you throwback to the 5th century!POSITIVE –Using Lots of Clever Humor to Keep Her Giggling… When it comes to women, effective humor is all about your CLEVER commentary on the absurdities that surround us — not about the repeating of dumb Hustler jokes or doing lame celebrity impressions. That’s why they call it a SENSE of humor — you need to base your wit on a deeper sense of what’s going on around you… which often lies just beneath the obvious. So dig it out and make her laugh! Laughter is a tried-and-true way of creating unbearable lightness around women… which can be translated into heavier romantic feelings later on.NEGATIVE –Referring to Her in the Third Person… Instead of simply saying “What do you think of the shrimp scampi, Marsha?” you re-phrase it: “So, does Marsha like the shrimp scampi?”. This is how an adult talks to an adolescent in order to establish an impression of superiority over him or her. This kind of verbal stinkbomb drops an instant barrier between you and the woman by suggesting that the two of you are not on the same social / intellectual level, and that you consider her to be the inferior party. Only a woman with a case of very low self-esteem would let something like this slide by without being upset, and who needs to be messing around with losers like that?The bottom line is this: if you take the time to bond with a woman FIRST by using the power of action before self-revelation, all your subsequent interactions with her have a better chance of turning delightful instead of deadly. Remember that my ideas are always designed to make dating and seduction as fun and interesting as possible in order to keep you motivated and participating in the oftentimes grinding, discouraging, “weeding-out” process.That’s because PERSISTENCE is how you will eventually develop all those mad social skills that you’re searching for!Mike Pilinski overcame an incredible case of rejection phobia by learning how to mimic certain key behaviors that women find attractive in high status males, the resulting success now forming the basis for the methods that he teaches. Visit Mike’s website at http://0845.com/jxV to see his highly acclaimed e-books “Without Embarrassment” and “She’s Yours For The Taking: A Man’s Guide to the Seduction and Enchantment of Women”http://0845.com/jxVI thank you for taking the time to read this short report and I sincerely hope you take actionand make your life happier and wealthier for the better.JanuszJanulis© 2003-2009 World Marketing Media, Inc.

I have a buddy who will under no circumstances approach a woman he doesn’t know. It doesn’t matter if she’s making direct eye contact and sending him a “come seduce me” smile. He’s absolutely scared to death of making cold approaches. If you share his philosophy of fear, then you’re missing out on a lot of opportunities. It’s your job as a male to approach women and to show interest first.

Think for a moment about how you feel if a perfect stranger compliments you. Have you ever had a woman smile and approach you out of the blue? Ever had a carload of girls drive by when you’re jogging and scream at you approvingly? It makes you feel great doesn’t it? It doesn’t even matter if she’s hot or not. If a woman shows interest in you, then you feel great inside.

That’s exactly how women feel. It doesn’t matter if they’re not attracted to you. It doesn’t matter if you say something stupid. If you approach a woman she’ll be genuinely flattered by the attention you’re giving her.

Of course if you approach them in a threatening or creepy manner, they’re not going to appreciate meeting you. On the other hand, if you go up to them in a good natured way and say something halfway pleasant, they’ll love it.

Why do you think women spend hours doing their hair and nails? Why do you think the girl at the mall is wearing a miniskirt that shows off her shapely legs? They do that stuff for you! Women WANT men to appreciate their beauty. They crave the attention. Your attention affirms their sexuality.

So what have you got to lose? You want to meet hot women. Hot women want to be admired. What’s the problem here?

So what if you approach a group of girls and say something stupid? They might laugh at you? WHO CARES?! Being laughed at never killed anyone and it helps you to grow thicker skin. The worst thing that can happen is that you won’t get their phone number, which you never had in the first place. So how is being rejected by a total stranger a bad thing?

They don’t know you so they’re not rejecting who you are inside. They don’t know what qualities you possess, or the many skills you have. They don’t truly know who you are so their rejection means nothing.

Granted, at first it can be hard to gather the courage to blindly walk up to hot women. You may stutter, say something stupid, or words may not come out at all. Always keep in mind what the worst thing that can happen is if you fail. NOTHING!

Successfully approaching hot women is a numbers game. At first you’ll experience a disproportionate number of rejections. But as you gain confidence you’ll be rejected less and less often and your successes will increase dramatically. Eventually you’ll simply stop caring and the nervousness will go away.

Never be afraid to approach hot women! For more advice on how to approach women check out our dating guide for men at Zewb.com.

Attracting women is easier said than done. Advice from so-called seduction gurus has men everywhere utilizing techniques that get them nowhere. A lot of these moves are nothing short of dating mistakes.I think comedian Chris Rock put it best when he said that a woman knows if she’s gonna sleep with you within the first five minutes of meeting you. If you’re frustrated at the thought of this, don’t be.The bad news is that you could be making mistakes in how you interact with women. The good news is that you can fix these mistakes. If you want to seduce the opposite sex, you must eliminate everything that’s holding you back.The following are four of the most common dating mistakes made by men. Nip these in the bud, and your love life will change dramatically:LyingWhile a white lie here and there is harmless, repetitive lying will only damage your credibility. There’s a universal law that states “what goes around, comes around,” and lying certainly qualifies. People lie to avoid the discomfort that goes along with being honest. However, nothing is worse than getting caught in a lie, so be truthful at all times.The biggest instance of lying to women involves dating more than one girl. Rather than juggle partners, let each girl know that she’s one of many in your life. If she’s okay with sharing you, great; if not, at least you’ll avoid an outburst upon being discovered.Bad CharacterIn life and love, you’re only as good as your word. A man who respects himself and others is of high character…and very appealing to women.Don’t say one thing, and do something else. If you make a promise, keep it. Be confident in all that you do, but consider the feelings of others. Women find strong character irresistible!Low ConfidenceThere’s nothing sexier than a man who’s confident. Don’t seek the approval of others; this will only show your weak side. If you think highly of yourself, women will too.Some guys go overboard when it comes to confidence, opting instead to act like jerks. True confidence is solid in and of itself. A man who possesses it does not feel the need to boast. He lets his accomplishments speak for themselves.Playing ChickenIt’s not uncommon nowadays for men to sit idle, failing to approach women. They wait for women to make the first move, only to be disappointed. If you want to improve your game, you must understand one truth…Women rarely make the first move. As natural hunters, it’s the men who must do the chasing. Women expect it; they want it! It’s understandable that you might be nervous about talking to a girl for the first time, but you’ll never know unless you try. The more you practice, the more confident you’ll become.Final ThoughtsThe only thing worse than making a mistake is not learning from it. By recognizing your shortcomings when approaching women, you can focus on how to fix them. As soon as you do, you’ll be amazed at the difference in your seduction efforts.